So imo the son best stay with his mom, for the time being.

Funn Lim, in your case, you had no stepmother to deal with and had siblings to keep you company.

look at Micheal Doughlas, his son drug, smokes ect… and look at his kids with CZJones,, they got everythinggggg,,,

In circumstances where the wife really wants to have the father keep in contact, is angry she is shouldering the entire burden of raising the child whether emotionally, physically and financially, the solution instead of venting her anger at the son (I am not speaking of Gallen’s ex wife here, I mean generally) and complaining and crying and feeling every bit of jealousy not that he remarried but he has freedom and she does not despite the fact she does love her child and that he seems to butt into the child’s life without notice, my solution is send the child to live with the father and the new wife and you become the weekend parents which equates to fun and no homework.

But in Gallen’s case, the idea the son never turned up for the wedding save for illness or exams, tells me she is very happy he is out of her son’s life. Maybe Gallen reluctantly agreed to do so for the sake of civility with his ex wife. I don’t know about the new wife though. For all I know she too may be rather happy with this present arrangement.

Is it so difficult to envisiage sending your children to live with your husband and his new wife in their nice big home with nice big garden? I know a mother’s instinct is to protect their children and she thinks being with her is the best protection. I personally believe whatever hardship, a child would like to remain with the person they want to be with, not who has more money.

But speaking by experience, my happiest day was when I returned to stay with my father (no new wife luckily but my siblings were all there so that is a plus point) after my mother let go of my custody after my eldest sister who was much older persuaded her to do so. I don’t remember much those few years but I remember skipping happily. I also remember my mother has her freedom to do whatever she wants and I and my siblings spent long holidays with her and now that we are all grown up, we all live together.

Sometimes if you’re in dire straits, unlike Gallen’s ex wife of course but generally in dire straits, it is also love to let go rather than to hold on.

That was what I meant when I said let your child stay with the father. However believe me people being vindictive will cut off contact rather than send child to the man.

I hope this isn’t the case with Gallen. He must make effort too. I just have this feeling like I said once there is a new child with this new love of his life, the son may be Julian Lennon rather than Sean Lennon.

Totally agree with you Kidd! It is not just all about money and raising a kid does not just take money, but also a lot of love,emotional care,etc… I think raising a kid with be easier if all it took was money. However, sadly that is not the case at all. In some cases, a kid can be raised in a good environment with a lot of love and care but with a minimum amount of money and still manage to be happy. However, in some other cases, a kid is born in a rich family and have all of the money and materialistic things are readily available, but they have no love, care or attention from their parents. I think that kid with be really sad and feel neglected. Therefore, money is NOT always the one and most important thing when raising a child.

It’s not just about not able to let go of the son because she will miss him. There’s also concern on whether the child will be well taken care of (not just splashing him with money, but also giving him the necessary emotional care, making sure he’s healthy and well brought up), whether the new wife will treat the child well. These are great concerns to a mother.