• @hetieshou I'm sure it's perfectly reasonable to call a family meeting and discuss the rising costs of housing, and what is an appropriate amount for your brother and SIL to pay. Just do this matter-of-factly and it may be necessary to have this conversation in stages. Initially, they may not be willing to pay more than they're used to, but it's necessary if other siblings in the household are contributing more money towards living costs under the same roof. Since they're saving so much money, they may already have plans to move out one day. Usually married couples live with family for a few years to save up until they can afford their own home. Maybe they just don't want to announce it yet until they're ready to make that house offer. I know money can be sensitive topic among siblings, especially now that your brother is married. Your SIL's attitude towards family contributions will affect your brother's perspective. But you also have to do what you need to protect your interests. If you feel more comfortable to involve other siblings (who support your view), you can do so. Just try to remain matter of fact without throwing in any accusations or sounding judgmental about their lifestyle. Just talk about the numbers and why you feel that an increase in family contributions is justified. My sister, who is 8 years older than me, had paid for part of my college tuition since she was already working. Back then, I was naive and didn't keep a good record of the exact amount. When my sister got married, she was tight on money. I was still in college and couldn't afford to help her out. Now that she is married, I realize that although my sister may not ask me back for the college money, my brother-in-law may mind. Eventually, I paid her back more than what she had contributed, as I factored in cost of inflation. I actually don't mind paying more as I was already glad that she pitched in to help me during my time of need. In our household, we are not very clear-cut on money contributions, but we help each other out when we can.
  • @jimmyszeto @hetieshou Sorry to hear what happened your close ones. I didn't even know the herbal stuff would have such a harmful effect. I thought it was just placebol. Do you know what specific health boosting foods they bought? The seafood stuff can be for flavoring and there are some health claims too. But I think some people are unaware of the methods they use to preserve the seafood. I know many dry Chinese food items have sulfite in them as a preservative. It is very harmful to human health. One time, I wanted to buy dry fish maw and on the bag, written in english it said the fish maw contained high amount of sulfite or some other chemical I can't remember. It basically said it is a dangerous food item. Eat at you own risk. I put it right down. Imagine you can't read English or in Asia, all you hear is how good this stuff is for you but you'll never know that it is harmful because of what people put in it. I think all food item is good on it's own and dried foods can be nutitious too but you gotta to think about what people put in it for shelf life.
  • @hetieshou My grandparents kept on drinking these high concentrated herbal soups and both suffered same effects of diabetes and blindness afterwards. It is beyond me why chinese like to spend on all these herbal substances. Even my parents spend thousands buying dry abalones, dry snails and dry scallops every time they go Hong Kong use them in soups. To me they are just dry seafood with terrible texture rather than the mythical health potion. Natural is best!
  • @coralie Well said and it is not only cheating that causes a marriage to break down. It is many other reasons which is why I admire couples who are still happily married even after so many years. I once talked to my friend’s friend and she was married to her husband for over 40 years. They were still in love but she said that it was very hard and was not all smooth sailing. It is easy to say that you will cherish your wife or husband if you are newly married but, down the road who really knows? As we can see with Catherine Hung and her husband plus many other cases. The example you cited sounds like my former friend ‘s brother. He married because he got his girlfriend pregnant but his wife is very unreasonable. Their marriage was very unstable and had so many problems. I think they are divorced by now as she was not ready to be a wife and mother. She was like a Yang Mi. She just worked while her in law’s took care of the baby.
  • @megamiaow Yes you are so right! They actually used to live with my brother’s wife’s parents and they are old and had enough of caring for them and their kids. That is why they live off of us now. My other siblings do not care as it does not affect them but bothers me a lot because it affects me the most. They have no shame or pride as long as they get all of the benefits of living with us. Some of my aunts say they have no pride as they should have their own place by now as they cannot live like this forever. My brother’s wife is like Yang Mi, just work and maintains her looks and sits on her butt. Her kids are invisible to her. They are starting to know that and although they are young are beginning to hate her. That is karma right there.
  • @m0m0 I agree and these expensive herbal stuff may give you immediate results but they may hurt you in the long term. My late uncle took some and felt better for the short term but it affected his health in a negative way so he ended up in the hospital. I simply do not trust these herbal medicine stuff anymore. My late mom got liver damage from too much herbal medicine and passed away as a result so I vow not to believe in this stuff anymore.
  • @hetieshou Id be embarrassed if I was them. $1000 a month between them is ridiculous too for a whole family. They are indeed living rent free. Well, they can only do it so long. Its not good raising kids up in that environment. They might not remember as much if they are small, but as they grow up they will probably ask why they are still living with their aunty.
  • @janet72 Women can cheat too and it is not just the men.
  • @sev2 Exactly! Time will tell all and I have known people who were married for 30+ and 40+ years still stray and cheat down the road. It is not just the guy but women can cheat too. With time you change and they change and it is hard to maintain a marriage for a lifetime. Marriages that last a lifetime are truly rare these days.
  • @anon I am a bit confused... You are saying the guy did not get a cent but why should she be entitled to 50% of her ex husband’s wealth? That is not fair.
  • @coralie Totally agree and there are sooooo many things that money cannot buy. Class and self respect are among those 2 things.
  • @theyenman I agree with you and do not like chopstick legs as they look anorexic look. Of course no one likes big fat legs too but her legs are too thin.
  • These types of fans are very scary and creepy! There was that one dude who stalked an American actress and ended up shooting her. Don’t these people have more of a life rather than just stalking celebs?
  • @aplha123 Exactly! I was going to say the same thing. This girl is a career gold digger.
  • @passingby2 Maybe she lets them bed her easily? We all wonder the same thing.
  • @megamiaow Even if she is pretty, there are plenty of women like her so what makes her stand out? Hm... her skills in bed?
  • @kenexia True but maybe she is hoping to dig as much out of him as she can before he gets sick of her.
  • @kenexia Not necessarily as my 2nd brother married at 50. Aaron Kwok married around that age too. It just depends..
  • @megamiaow It is not that they cannot find their own place but just do not want to. They complain how expensive houses are as we live in California. They just want to work and put money into their pockets. No, our house is not big so it is hard living with them. But they refuse to move out as they are too dependent, cheap and cannot handle raising a family. I wonder why they had kids in the first place? Sigh...
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