• @littlefish it was Sunday, maid not home yet after her day off
  • @littlefish i don't mind. When I was pregnant with my son, I had difficult 3rd trimester where I could barely walk, the flu which turned into horrible coughing fit (lost my voice for weeks) for 8 weeks while still working full time up to delivery. We found live in au pair (au pair system are more like work/education program with childcare component) with minimal housework- only what is considered family housework like washing dishes after family meals which au pairs can choose or decline to be part of. Max is 45(?) Hours per week, they are not obligated to respond outside scheduled work hours even if they live in your home nor they allowed to care for children under 90 days old. So whole she helped me care for my 4 yr old for last month of pregnancy before (7-9 am) and after preschool (5 pm to 10 pm) mon - Sat like taking her to park, enrichment classes (different places all overvthe city), bath, crafts, reading, etc. I still had to do most household chores, shopping, etc. When baby was born, I was on maternity leave and primary caregiver for newborn for 3 months which I considered 24 hr around the clock. Upon returning to work, my mom took care of baby during daytime and au pair kept same work schedule. This entire arrangement only lasted about 8 months but headcount was au pair and mom plus me/husband. If I had money to swing for one more part time to cook/clean/laundry/chauffeur I absolutely would just so I can have more play time with the kids. At the 4 year age difference the care requirements and activities were just too different.
  • @littlefish didn't see she was wearing a g-string at first so I went back and have a closer look to confirm. :)
  • The only thing I’m afraid is now they will start doing season to combat this restriction. Looking at you, oh my emperor >_> now I hope they have something in place to combat this. Do not like draggy drama!
  • @jimmyszeto hallelujah! Yes, I agree that this is the best restriction yet! So many drama would be so good if it wasn’t drawn out for draggy plot line, or to try make secondary leads famous! @terrycrews19 the first censorship - no more time travelling drama was because one of the wives of the high ranking complain to him about it lol! So it hasn’t changed since xD
  • While it’s true that near the beach mean you can wear swimmers, but you can wear a thin shawl/whatever those beachy loose clothes is, or a long skirt to cover your bottom, and that would be fine. Or wear a tasteful 1 piece swimmer, instead of a bikini, a G-string bikini at that! Normal bikini wouldn’t be too bad, but G-string one like this is just obvious attention grabbing
  • @smurf you have 1 live in au pair, does she actually stay with you? (Just curious, no need to reply unless you want to). Based on what you said, it seems that you counted yourself as a helper? Yourself and your au pair? That makes it 2? Otherwise I’m not sure where no.2 come from. Lastly the article said they are live in maids. If counted the parents, and the helper, I absolutely agree with you that 3 per 1 child isn’t unreasonable. But 5 for 3 children (2 of which should start childcare/school) is a bit much. Triplets = I’ll give you that lol. A lot of these works aren’t taking proportionally longer just because you add an extra child, like cleaning (put stuffs in the dish washer, even washing by hand, won’t take that much longer to wash 3-5 extra plate), same with cooking. Then the math again is out, because if you count the parents, then give them the fair wages hours then uhm, it’s unrealistic lol. No parents work with the paid 8hrs :p when it comes to children. While I agree 3 maids aren’t unreasonable, I just disagree with your math/argument, that’s all :) also I think 2 maids are basically enough when you have 2 hand on parents, unless both parents are full time workers. 1 maid like you said cook, clean and shop. One take care of the kids, again, with 3 kids, I’m gonna assume the normal setting: 3.5yo, 1.5yo, and new born. Both 3.5 and 1.5 can be in childcare full time, leaving you with new born (even if the 1.5 isn’t in daycare, 2 kids 1 person is absolutely doable, it’s wreck a person, but you can do it in 8hrs no problem, then swap for the mum who comes home from work, and again the kids sleep for assuming 8hrs in 2 lots of 4). Also assuming the kids aren’t wild, I.e have a routine, they will be both out cold by 9pm, and won’t be up again until 7am, unless the 1.5 is a bad sleeper, who wake up every 1hr at night, you have both parents to deal with it (assuming the 2 maids are out/not live in/whatever worker law apply here). Anyway, etc etc :p anyway, the article said Tracy + her husband + her doula + 3 new helpers = 6 adults for 3 kids? Lol that’s a bit excessive :) what are these kids doing? Can’t feed themselves? In normal setting, US worker law, both full time working parents, 3 helpers are not unreasonable, but in this case, not necessary :) (consider they already have a doula)
  • @hohliu yea, that excuse is rather fishy :p doesn’t HK have home delivery, I can’t imagine someone as rich as Aaron don’t just shop online or have maids to do this sort of chore lol.
  • @jimmyszeto well said :) also children grow up so quick, how they response to your care at different age in their lives are so different and constantly changing, missing out on the first two years is quite a pity if you could help it.
  • @coralie of course I can’t speak for everyone, and I’m not shaming parents who need help, got help, require help. My point in the first comment was you gain some, you lose same, more help will definitely mean less bond time, I even mention I sent my little one to daycare and feel like I lost a lot of time with him, but it’s necessary. And to answer your question about whether I remember, my case is special so this is not a representation for other or any big portion of the population at all, but I do remember some stuffs at 2, and possibly why I never bond well with my mum, the bad memories I remembered about my mum plus the separation after that for 5yrs contribute to the fact that to me, my mum was nothing but a stranger up until I was 11. My dad on the other hand, I remember being with him, he took me to stuffs and take care of me, so while he had the same separation time minus sometimes when he came visit me (my mum never did), I love my dad to bit. Less than 2, most kids don’t remember, but from 2, they start to remember some stuffs, and know a lot of things. Also children will have their preference, you give them more choice on people who can spend time with them, you will get less bond time, it’s just what it is. It’s how you see it, whether this less bond time justified, and whether it’s necessary. Matter of perspective, no one blaming anyone or shaming anyone, no need to get so jumpy. And as a matter of fact, you can get help, have live in maid that clean and cook, while all you do is solely focus on the children, then that’s fine, however, again, that bring you to need just 1-2 maid the most. The cleaning and cooking can be done by 1 person. The second can help out with either kids or housework. So yes, 1-2 maids are all you really need really. Last and not least, I was merely pointing out that dividing the day into 3 segments of 8hours to make any sort of calculation in term of taking care of a child is wrong because you neglecting the time they sleep. While it’s true that their sleep is broken, it doesn’t last long, after the first year, it will settle and that is with the bad baby (I know because I have the bad one as my first).
  • @littlefish personally I have nothing against you, but when i don't agree with something, that's when i comment. so it's not you, but what you say. and your personal anecdotes only speak for a part of the population, but you don't speak for everyone. this isn't a competition where someone wins because they spent more time with their kids or did everything themselves. but if you want to comment on bonding time - most kids don't even remember this period of their childhood. do you remember anything from when you were 2? as the kids grow older, parents can spend more time with their children and less with the nannies to ensure there's adequate time with family so they can bond. i'm not saying they should spend no time with their babies at all, but it's not that big of a deal when they are raised with help. @jimmyszeto and likewise, parenthood can be a self-sacrificing passage of adulthood, when you let it be. who says parenting has to be difficult or hard? i don't have anything against folks who hire help for their kids, just like i don't deride people for having their family help. at the end of the day, we just do what we can do to make our lives a little easier.
  • @littlefish There are tons of pesticides in Strawberries. No thorough washing can wash off the pesticides because they are absorbed into the flesh.
  • @coralie I have 2 kids, one just over 2, and one new born. And I got zero help, admittedly I got no pet, but you don’t need that many maids. Older kids in a sense know to take care of themselves, plus daycare, plus daddy play time, plus being siblings that know to play with each other. And no, I got no one to help but my husband, we got no parents here to help us out. And many parents are out doing it basically like us, again, daycare helps. Unless she full on not sending her oldest to any school at all, then yes, it would be tough and kinda stupid and not good for the kid. First kid you tend to not sure how to deal with their sleep and their sleep tends to be horrible, but second and third kids, a lot of mom I know all have a much better time with their sleep. The 10-15mins doesn’t happen too badly, like my little one, would kinda do that during the day, but at night, she sleeps for a solid chunk of 3-5hrs. I cut in a lot of my sleep, but it’s not bad. Both my kids tend to be in bed by 8pm, from then, I get a few hours of doing housework and what not, sure it’s not a lot, but survivable. Also you like to fight with me, I didn’t say she can’t have 3 maids, I even said the reason why she has 3 was due to the fact she also have pets. In general circumstances without pet, 1-2 maid is the most you need, you need to do thing smartly, and again think of childcare option instead of a maid? Childcare helps their development a lot while letting you do your own thing. If you already send the children to childcare, yet still require 3 maids, you need to start doing your life better! Meal prep, Be organise, and just expect nothing will be perfect, and your house isn’t gonna be sparkly clean, and not messy. And lol, “Someone has to be on duty to attend to the sleeping baby“, the baby is sleeping, go do other stuff? What are you gonna do? Sit there and watch the baby sleep? I admit baby sleeping is the cutest thing in life, but she/he is sleeping, they don’t move, and they don’t need attending to.
  • @littlefish if the child is less than 2, like say, a newborn which Tracey will be having soon, even if the baby sleeps on avg 12 hrs, it is not a complete 12 hour sleeping period. It is separated into chunks of 2-3 hours. And maybe every 15-30 minutes. Someone has to be on duty to attend to the sleeping baby while someone else takes care of other things, like washing bottles, laundry, prepping for the next meal, etc. Unless the plan is for someone to not sleep at all, at least two people needs to be ready every 24 hours. And Tracey is not a FTM either...she has two additional kids to cook, clean and pay atte ntion to. Three maids is just enough, on top of her pets.
  • @smurf I love how your hypothetical child do not need sleep xD children less than 2 tends to sleep on average 12hrs a day, say you have a bad baby who barely sleep, they still sleep around 9hr (less than 9 under 2 consider as unhealthy and possibly something wrong, the hours range between 9-13hrs). In that 9 hours, the child do not need care. I would say with parents, 1-2 extra help is all you really need. She possibly have 3 is because she has pets as well as the kids, and the parents possibly not as hand on. Since sending my 2yo to daycare for 2 days, I already feel I barely spend any time with him, when you change a child’s Diaper or giving him a bath, that’s your bonding time with them, the helpers will just cut in the bonding time, more helpers, less bond time
  • @jimmyszeto it’s only true if the farmers didn’t use pesticides, if they do use pesticides, best to wash it instead of just eating it straight. But yes, you should change the maid if you are not happy with them
  • Zanilia in all outfits = a girl, maybe a cute girly girl, but a girl. Every other celebrities pair with her wore the same outfit = a woman. I know it’s ZZ’s brand, cute young girl, but it’s such 1 note. Also her chest gotta be the flattest out of all of them. I’ll pick every other girls lol (apart from NiNi), and I don’t even like FBB or ZZY
  • @littlefish The article is misleading, taking bits and pieces of the truth to fabricate a bigger and unnecessary story. Forbes didn't even take into consideration of detective chinatown 2. So LHR made it into Forbes list with just NiF2, legend of the demon cat etc alone. LHR's hype was actually huge during DC2. However, he ended up staying low out of the limelight during that time and didn't ride on the popularity wave. He attended uni classes and was filming. When he was hot after Beijing Love Story, instead of hitting it off when he was in the hype, he took a year off to attend his 1st year of uni. That is why you think he is not making any noise. When there is too much noise, he tends to be out of the public eye until it dies down. NEF didn't even really market itself. Most production team would pay for trending search to market the drama but the fans were the one who put it on trending before it airs. All the costume dramas were also announcing airing date 1 day before to create less commotion in fear of their dramas getting taken down. Even when it aired, the team quietly announced it within the day of airing in fear of it getting taken down again by SAFT. While the script made book fans angry, critics praised LHR for his performance. The fact that he got to work with some of the biggest A list names in the industry on that one project alone will allow him to learn a lot of things and garner a lot of connections. He even said himself that he thinks he have experienced all the hurdles that an actor will go through in their career in that 9 months that he filmed NEF alone. He definitely got more out of NEF than lost. Even now, he is one of the rare post 95'ers that get to work on larger scale projects and big directors. It's even rare to star in a chen kaige film once for any actor, and his going to star in a chen kaige film 3 times after 2020 ends. Chen Kaige is also known to be praised by A listed actors for been great at getting the most out of actors and expanding their acting growth so this is a great opportunity for LHR. The anthology film that Chen Kaige is in charge of leading a few other directors to film for the government is basically a film that most of China will need to watch (and LHR is starring in it for Chen Kaige's segment). This is a huge (and scary) opportunity for LHR because basically the whole industry will now get exposed to his performance. By November 2018, he was the 14th celebrity to be on all the big 5 magazine covers in China and he was the first under 25 to do so. His name is listed among big names like Hu Ge and Zhou Xun in magazine accomplishments. His made all this accomplishment before he even turned 21 at the time with just a handful of work on his resume. And let's not forget that his barely 22 right now and his already accomplished so much more. All this is not just purely out of luck (luck plays an important part in this industry. But it is what you do with it that also matters). LHR is a hard worker and he have a grounded way of thinking while still maintaining the fresh air of a newcomer and all directors and people who worked with him have praised him for it. He made effort to put himself out there, made connections and get to know the industry better. Most of these projects (NiF2, NEF etc) had little to do with his boss's influence and more to do with LHR's own efforts and his own self branding. Despite how well a project does, I think Haoran gained more from these big productions than lose. I think haoran's reach and hype in the industry is loud and clear with his future projects lined up and luxury branding endorsements (LV, Tod's, tiffany and co, tom ford). And his only just started. So yea, I don't think sophiekin is been butt hurt because this is just a matter of fact that LHR is doing better than most young actors and getting a lot of 'luck' in getting selected for projects
  • @msxie0714 oh my bad, I thought Taiwan belongs to China! How ignorant of me to not recognise Taiwan as Taiwan :)
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