@megamiaow it’s a sign basically. While you can keep most of your finance separately, you should have some joint estate/finance to show a decent amount of trust and work together as a couple. Like you said their current house that they live together should be a joint estate. While it might be normal for celebrity to keep their finance separate from one another, it tends to be more normal for couple who only see 10yrs together with one another. Whereas other long term couple will just do joint estate, especially for their loved nest. My Hk friend’s key condition with her bf before married is that they need to own house together (can be after married, but it must be together), while her bf’s condition is to own a house before married, so it took them a long time to get married but they got there! My point is traditional Asian seems to value joint estate as a couple.

Didnt watch it, not into sappy romances.

@wm2017 Dont most men?

As a friend, I think you will mostly still remain friends in these situations. I do have a friend I know is the 3rd party and have expressed disaprovement but Im not going to distance myself from the friend. If the affair was hurting a mutual friend however, then that might be a different story....

None of their properties are joint? Is that normal? (Asking as single unmarried person)The one they live in must be surely.

@coralie @rila Love in a marriage does tend to get more and more platonic over time. Romantic fireworks disappear and like Coralie says other priorities take precedence. But in Sammis situation with religion being such a massive influence, who knows how she is valuing her marriage.

@megamiaow yeah, I agree that there are couples who are co-dependent on each other and I know at least one family who’s still living together only for the sake of their children. However if children’s involved, I actually can understand their reasons and respect that they’re willing to be selfless and sacrifice romantic love to provide a stable family home and care for their children. Not the best case scenario but it at least shows that both spouses have the same values and principles as parents and came to a consensus to prioritize being parents over anything else. But here Sammi is not a mother and things are not that complicated. tbh, this is not a “lesson” in marriage for the guy; a lesson may be learning to communicate or learning how to work through an argument... You don’t need to cheat to learn that you’re not supposed to cheat in marriage... This was a sin and a betrayal of trust. I wouldn’t be able to live with the guy, his mere presence would remind me everyday of how he broke my heart.

@megamiaow I guess it’s fine for Andy to do this again then. All will be forgiven next time too...

@diana80 Good point. I suppose it does mean she should forgive the mistress too.

@rila There is the whole staying together for the sake of staying together. Maybe because this person is the one closest to you and you cant imagine not having them in your lives or for children. My parents have been through this. I did not find out till recent years. If a person co-depends on someone a lot then the thought of facing things alone in the world is scary. Despite this, I think she should have put herself first, and she may have found herself another person loves, because the trust has never been there in the decades that Ive witnessed. We as their children have asked them why dont they divorce and we will arrange everything. But by this time, life alone is even more terrifying alone for them. They will rather stay together if not just for companionship.

@megamiaow Yes...that's how HK media operates....which is why each time a public figure does something majorly wrong or is implicated in something, one of the first things they do is hold a press con, which is basically a tactic to appease the public -- it doesn't really matter what they say technically, they just need to show their face, apologize, look remorseful (even if they're not), etc....they don't even have to field any questions (notice Andy and Kenneth both refused to answer questions -- they just read their statement and that's it)....whether we agree with it or not, a public figure does have a certain amount of responsibility to the public (hence they need to be careful what they say and/or do when in the public eye) which is why a press con or something similar to it is needed when these situations occur, since it fulfills their obligation to the public... Some artists choose not to respond at all and hope the situation blows over, which does work sometimes, but it depends on the situation...something this big, involving big name celebrities who are known across Asia and overseas (in places where there are large Chinese communities such as Canada and U.S.), definitely the "I'm not going to respond" tactic is NOT going to work.

@megamiaow Exactly!! If she was an ordinary person, I wouldn’t care this much, but now cheating or thinking of cheating husbands are given the idea that as long as you apologize and act all contrite, then everything’s swept under the rug and second chances are handed out right away? And women are told that they are expected to forgive and live with the pain and humiliation and a man who doesn’t even love them? As for being classy, he was the one to break a marriage vow in the first place, so I say he deserves no class treatment from her. I don’t know about murder or criminal charges because I believe that’s way more complex in regards to forgiveness and reconciliation, but for extramarital affairs, you can always offer forgiveness and be friends instead while focusing on rediscovering your identity and finding happiness with someone else. That’s what I would do in her shoes. It’s not the end of the world, and if he cannot respect the sanctity and meaning of marriage, then he has no right to be her husband.

@llwy12 HK does seem to swallow up public apologies, even if its obviously super fake. If Jacqueline would have been as quick to do the same, I wonder if she would have had less flak? I watched a youtube radio show and the host was going on about how much of a disgraceful woman (which I dont disagree) she was. Then he briefly mentions how Andy seemed repentant and he offered an acceptable apology. Seemed like he basically was saying it was all good on that front with the man, before going back to slate her. Very double standards. And goes to show even though this PR stuff is total BS and fake, how much it works.

@rila Yes, she has lost some points with me to be honest, being a fan since childhood. It most definitely is her choice, but I cant find myself to respect her anymore when she doesnt seem to respect herself. It does seem to send wrong messages out. She is being praised for being such a forgiving and classy person, but does that mean those who are not quick to forgive being cheated on are not classy and forgiving person? I certainly hope the consensus gleaned from this is not that its ok to cheat, the extreme christian way of thinking seems to have no limits for forgiveness. There are devout christians who have forgiven criminals who have brutally murdered their own families before. Im just too average and cant wrap my head around it. And I refuse to acknowledge that they are the better people because they take this stance. There also doesnt seem to have been much punishment to Andy in this event. He was forgiven almost immediately, and everyones anger was directed at Jacqueline just because she went into hiding and didnt offer a quick or sincere enough apology.

@jjwong I dont think all women think everyone is interested on them?! Why? If you said "an attractive person" would think 80%, 99% of people is attracted to them then yeah. Saying its women who generally think that is completely baffling. As a woman I can confirm that no, I dont think anything walking on 2 legs would always be interested in me.

@megamiaow lol same. i don't like big age gap relationships. @jaylee - 22 and 15, which isn't a super big difference. i think 10 is already my limit, but since she doesn't care about digits, then what's the difference between 15 and 22 and 30?

@tungamy Just like what most people on here predicted. Each to their own. Personally I'd be repulsed letting a husband who cheated ever touch me again.

@jjwong I heard that too. I can only think that in that situation, they wouldnt agree with his request to drop her off so he suggests switching it up and do it the other way around (which archieves the result he wants anyway).

@megamiaow Lol. Tell me about it what about the rest like Kevin Cheng and Grace Chan? Aaron Kwok and his wife Moka?

@coralie True. It doesnt make you a bad character because you swear, and its so common these days that will make most the world bad people. Theres definitely fewer people in the world who never swear than people who do. Everyone likes to think feminine girls shouldnt swear because it doesn't physically fit the profile though. I forever get people wrongly assuming I dont, even if I have used it to their faces. Its always that shocked face, "Ive never heard you swear before!!". They hear it a lot more after that lol