• @littlefish i don't mind. When I was pregnant with my son, I had difficult 3rd trimester where I could barely walk, the flu which turned into horrible coughing fit (lost my voice for weeks) for 8 weeks while still working full time up to delivery. We found live in au pair (au pair system are more like work/education program with childcare component) with minimal housework- only what is considered family housework like washing dishes after family meals which au pairs can choose or decline to be part of. Max is 45(?) Hours per week, they are not obligated to respond outside scheduled work hours even if they live in your home nor they allowed to care for children under 90 days old. So whole she helped me care for my 4 yr old for last month of pregnancy before (7-9 am) and after preschool (5 pm to 10 pm) mon - Sat like taking her to park, enrichment classes (different places all overvthe city), bath, crafts, reading, etc. I still had to do most household chores, shopping, etc. When baby was born, I was on maternity leave and primary caregiver for newborn for 3 months which I considered 24 hr around the clock. Upon returning to work, my mom took care of baby during daytime and au pair kept same work schedule. This entire arrangement only lasted about 8 months but headcount was au pair and mom plus me/husband. If I had money to swing for one more part time to cook/clean/laundry/chauffeur I absolutely would just so I can have more play time with the kids. At the 4 year age difference the care requirements and activities were just too different.
  • @smurf you have 1 live in au pair, does she actually stay with you? (Just curious, no need to reply unless you want to). Based on what you said, it seems that you counted yourself as a helper? Yourself and your au pair? That makes it 2? Otherwise I’m not sure where no.2 come from. Lastly the article said they are live in maids. If counted the parents, and the helper, I absolutely agree with you that 3 per 1 child isn’t unreasonable. But 5 for 3 children (2 of which should start childcare/school) is a bit much. Triplets = I’ll give you that lol. A lot of these works aren’t taking proportionally longer just because you add an extra child, like cleaning (put stuffs in the dish washer, even washing by hand, won’t take that much longer to wash 3-5 extra plate), same with cooking. Then the math again is out, because if you count the parents, then give them the fair wages hours then uhm, it’s unrealistic lol. No parents work with the paid 8hrs :p when it comes to children. While I agree 3 maids aren’t unreasonable, I just disagree with your math/argument, that’s all :) also I think 2 maids are basically enough when you have 2 hand on parents, unless both parents are full time workers. 1 maid like you said cook, clean and shop. One take care of the kids, again, with 3 kids, I’m gonna assume the normal setting: 3.5yo, 1.5yo, and new born. Both 3.5 and 1.5 can be in childcare full time, leaving you with new born (even if the 1.5 isn’t in daycare, 2 kids 1 person is absolutely doable, it’s wreck a person, but you can do it in 8hrs no problem, then swap for the mum who comes home from work, and again the kids sleep for assuming 8hrs in 2 lots of 4). Also assuming the kids aren’t wild, I.e have a routine, they will be both out cold by 9pm, and won’t be up again until 7am, unless the 1.5 is a bad sleeper, who wake up every 1hr at night, you have both parents to deal with it (assuming the 2 maids are out/not live in/whatever worker law apply here). Anyway, etc etc :p anyway, the article said Tracy + her husband + her doula + 3 new helpers = 6 adults for 3 kids? Lol that’s a bit excessive :) what are these kids doing? Can’t feed themselves? In normal setting, US worker law, both full time working parents, 3 helpers are not unreasonable, but in this case, not necessary :) (consider they already have a doula)
  • Wow all I wrote was that it was not unreasonable to have 3 helpers (which I assumed lived offsite). From my own experience with 2 kids, we had a live in au pair but her contract said absolutely no house (unrelated to the kids). So right there would be two persons working (one childcare, one housework/s hopping/ groceries). Also the au pairs hours are capped at 40 per week. If none of the kids are at school or daycare, my long work hours would absolutely require a 3rd person. *I live in the US - unfamiliar with HK houseworker laws/practices.
  • @smurf You might as well hire a whole company of staff to look after the child. Each one can be responsible for one task such as feeding, changing the nappy etr. You can do zero parental work but still tell the child later in life how much effort you have put in raising him up.....
  • @smurf I love how your hypothetical child do not need sleep xD children less than 2 tends to sleep on average 12hrs a day, say you have a bad baby who barely sleep, they still sleep around 9hr (less than 9 under 2 consider as unhealthy and possibly something wrong, the hours range between 9-13hrs). In that 9 hours, the child do not need care. I would say with parents, 1-2 extra help is all you really need. She possibly have 3 is because she has pets as well as the kids, and the parents possibly not as hand on. Since sending my 2yo to daycare for 2 days, I already feel I barely spend any time with him, when you change a child’s Diaper or giving him a bath, that’s your bonding time with them, the helpers will just cut in the bonding time, more helpers, less bond time
  • @smurf True but how much she is doing herself in raising her child is minimal at best....
  • If there was truly a situation where the children and household requires 24 hour care, and the parents have elaborate work schedule, having 3 helpers is not too excessive. If work day is 8 hours per day and work week is 40 hours per week, children don't suddenly stop needing care at the end of 8 hours. Also if weekends are included, not unreasonable to need upwards of 100 - 120 hours of help a week. Hiring 3 people would not tire one out and comply to labor laws letting someone get time off.
  • No one knows how much they interact. Maybe they talk on the phone every day or Skype 5 days a week. Also her detailed schedule is not public. She has no obligation to her fans to talk about her kids.
  • I have not been following this story closely at all but how could she be 18 weeks pregnant if last contact was in July?
  • Remember once reading or watching interview that Dicky honed his improv skills from street performing on Temple Street and late night bars. No one has his level of energy anymore even those 20 years younger than him.
  • So much judgement in these comments. At least she is not his mistress and the story is not reporting that she is breaking up a marriage or anything. To each their own.
  • @smurf Exactly. The point is there'll be a struggle and discomfort for 99% people who just start reading. Things will click. For Westerners, it'll take a longer time to learn the pin yin yes; but if you're really invest and like the book, you'll learn. So these translated names to English is ridiculous; unless it's common sense / straight translation like Jade Emperor instead of Yuc Wong Dai Day. Thanks for the links, mate.
  • @jjwong I don't agree with the similar name argument. In Song of Fire and Ice series (Game of Thrones) there are no less than 15 different Bran/Brandons, Roberts, etc. People take time to learn them.
  • @jjwong This is most comprehensive site for wuxia discussions and translations. You will have to use search function to find all the translations. http://www.spcnet.tv/forums/forumdisplay.php/29-Wuxia-Translations
  • @funnlim Just found the original thread. I followed this one for almost 8 years... http://www.spcnet.tv/forums/showthread.php/21972-A-step-into-the-past-%E5%AF%BB%E7%A7%A6%E8%AE%B0-by-Huang-Yi
  • @jjwong http://www.spcnet.tv/forums/showthread.php/21972-A-step-into-the-past-%E5%AF%BB%E7%A7%A6%E8%AE%B0-by-Huang-Yi
  • @funnlim This is most comprehensive site for wuxia discussions and translations. You will have to use search function to find all the translations. http://www.spcnet.tv/forums/forumdisplay.php/29-Wuxia-Translations
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