• @luye so true some ppl naturally talented in their career. For example my current job is to set up case costing department in the hospital. I have no prior case costing experience 10 months ago when I took this job. I took this because I always want to go to case costing but this was the only case costing job open at that time when I left my previous job.i had to leave my previous job because my manager brought in HR and put me on three month improvement plan with coworkers following me to meetings. Anyways in mere six months my case costing experience is more than someone who has been in this field 5+ years. The reason because my role is a lead role where I have to set up the department from scratch with no help from hospital because no one in entire hospital has case costing experience. The peers from other hospitals they have team of ppl so they don't have 100 percent explosure to case costing and manager tries to hold some stuff no letting them have experience. When I took this job I didn't have manager this new manager has no experience either so I am pretty much left on my own in the dessert. It is because all these i quickly have caught up to those with 5+ years experience.
  • @vortex123 To add to your comment, many mainland actors and actresses went to acting school in China and received theatrical and classical training. Their skills and talent are very obvious when they are cast in ancient costume dramas. From the few TV episodes of an acting competition show that I watched recently when requested to act out a scene in the competition, it’s very obvious that these actors had classical/theatrical training and can act and re-enacted the scenes perfectly well, yet they are criticized immensely by the judges for their lacking/in-accurate/over-expressive micro-expressions. I was sitting there thinking that if there was an HK version of this show in the mainland. Most HK actors won’t even be able to act out 30% to the level of these mainland competitors and will get trashed profusely by the judge.
  • Reasons why the actors and actresses in China are better than HK is because those people went to University and studied drama. Those TVB majority are pagent girls but the rest are from the TVB class. TVB classes I heard have shorten the amount time to finish the whole class. Hong Kong has an academy of performing acts that provide degrees and diploma on drama. They should be like Mainland China recruit their actors and actresses there. That is how we got Vicki Zhao , Tiffany Tang, Zhang Ziyi etc. I am not sure if they are good actresses but at least better than TVB.
  • @jjwong i mentioned to that friend that I have to go through acupunture and I got my blood withdraw so much that my arms got bruised. She asked me does it hurt doing acupunture when her parents are Chinese doctor themselves which I pointed to her she should know because of her parents. She then says yes I remember it hurts. It is better I don't say anything because people would ask stupid questions like I have explain ovulation doesn't occur same day of the month. I have a 50 something year old coworker who wanted second child but she stopped producing eggs at 39. I thought she would be the most understanding whenever I tell her stuff like my period not here for two months she would say I am understress. I do tell ppl I am doing IVF soon because my friends and previous co-workers wants me to come out pretty much every weekend. That way they understand why I am no show. The best treatment for myself is to be alone.
  • @littlefish my thoughts when she said that was she was preventing me from having kids. It is like some people would tell you don't get married it is not fun getting married etc when they are happily married themselves. I am happy I can't have kids easily because it makes me sensitive to couples who doesn't have kids. I won't ask them are they planning to have kids. Barbie hsu doesn't seem to have trouble having kids so that explains her comments. She did lose her third child though but she didn't plan to have a third in the first place.
  • @vortex123 that’s very insensitive of your friend. What you are doing is right, and even if what she said maybe to help you feel less pressured about having kids, started from a good place, but still insensitive. Best of luck with everything, a few of my friends are having a lot of up and down with ivf, but persevere and you will get there :)
  • O This happened to me my friend who is a family doctor herself at that time she just gave birth to her son. She knows I have been going through fertility treatment and also seeing chinese doc. She tells me not to have kids you don't get sleep but at that time she has plans for a second one. Recently she messaged me she is pregnant with her second one and is due September. She wants me to come out and join her family to their weekly zoo outing before she delivers. Right now I am preparing for ivf and I don't want to hear from her anymore her complaints having kids. Plus it is awkward hanging out with them alone since my husband works out of town me and her family of 3.5.i just don't respond back.
  • @vortex123 Might be nosy of me, but what will you two do when you have kids?
  • My husband and I live LD as well. My husband who is a pharmacist can't find a job in the city that is full-time plus he makes maximum salary there. My family lives in Toronto but the house I got with husband is outskirts of the city and plus I work also there. A lot of people question why we don't live together. Questions continuously coming up is why he doesn't get a job here or why I can't get a job there. Like Dicky said trust is major key to maintain sanity lol. We never argue due to our time is limited, the only time we argue is because of my MIL otherwise we live a happy and peaceful life lol. Luckily I am planning both of us retire in 20 years so we have gone through six years like this hopefully the 20 years go by soon or I win lottery tomorrow.
  • This is too much what has Jacqueline done to others. At work we have a director who was here for over one year. She has bad people skills but can do her work. Due to her a lot of people resigned including four managers. When I applied for my current job the job posted as Project Manager but she gave me senior analyst. She ruined a lot of people careers. Someone complained to HR about her and also WSIB investigation happening same time so she was put on sick leave. She came back to work one month later but on her new boss first day of work he fired her which was three weeks ago. My point is Jacqueline is fired already TVB management knows the whole Hong Kong citizens doesn't want her on screen. Right now by making so much noise it is making the co-workers like Owen suffer even more. Now those two dramas will never see light or dark anymore. Why does she need to apologize in public when you stripping her title and ending her career no point of having her come out apologize. It is like when the director came back from the sick leave she tried to apologize but I don't buy it and I really don't care cause all I care is my own career.
  • @hetieshou Adoption costs $30k and you need to be married minimum of two or three years can't remember the exact number. First IVF is free so cheaper than adoption. The thing with adoption you don't know the kid background. The area I live in the best school is Catholic. I am buddist but my husband is catholic. With our own child my husband just need to show his own baptism certificate and our child can go to that school without being baptized so the child has a right to pick their religion. My husband doesn't always come home because of his job and I can't release the egg so it is our issue. If I go straight to adoption people would complain that I shouldn't put too much effort into my job or should have gone to where my husband work so we can have our own child. It is okay if we live together everyday and try many years. The thing my job does give me stress during peak seasons so people already put blame on me that I am too stressed but I can't quit my career goals. So adoption would make my life worst.
  • @hetieshou @vortex123 Yes. Good luck to you Vortex123. I know a couple who tried IVF & everything for 7 years & nothing happened. They decided to let nature takes it course and then they have two kids a few years later. I also have a friend who had a tumor in her uterus when she was 17 & she is not able to have children until this day. She wanted to adopt, but her husband doesn't want to do that. :(
  • @vortex123 Good luck to you and if you cannot have kids, would you ever consider adoption? But of course many highly prefer to have their own.
  • @jjwong I am 34 years old my husband 35 years old are healthy, never smoke, hardly drink coffee or alcohol. We got married in 2017 and have been trying since. I have PCOS a type of female infertility that happens to girls even as young as 20. even with Chinese medicine,acupunture, hormone drugs, ultrasound and fertility clinic's intervention I couldn't get pregnant with IUI last year when I was 33 years old. My husband works out of town. Female egg is only available once a month for 24 hours and male sperm lives in female 3 to 5 days uterus. The thing is that the female environment has to be right environment for sperm to survive. Also uterine lining has to be right thickness and female tubes cannot be blocked. My fertility doc says he never thought we need IVF but as mentioned above instead of wasting another year trying we will just go straight to IVF since it has highest chance to get pregnancy and first IVF is free. For their situation it might be similar. You never know what is inside people's body. Sperm has morbidity and sperm count as factor which is affected by smoking.
  • I have been working full-time 7 years straight. These 7 years I have job hopped because the job ended up not using my full potential. I am also completing my Master of Health Administration part-time. I have 3 years of hospital experience. I actually learned more about my career path interest and healthcare through my Master's degree. It was a huge risk for me as well since my boyfriend didn't want to get married till my education is done plus I purchased my own place so I had to deal with mortgage and tuition on my own . Right now I am almost 32 years old and finish in three more months so I am not like Fala who would be 37 years old when she is done. My friends are all married with kids already so I do feel old myself. However, sometimes you want to gain more knowledge and develop your career. Having higher education does change you a bit.
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