Grace Chan and Kevin Cheng Can’t Wait for Their Son to Grow Up
On April 22nd, Grace Chan (陳凱琳) attended TVB’s children’s event Think Big World <Think Big 天地> as an ambassador and host. Thankful for the company’s lighthearted work arrangement, 27-year-old Grace said being around children makes her happy. “Seeing them put their heart and energy into jumping during the games, I think their athletic spirit is so amazing. I also want to bring my son. Even though my friends told me it’s too early, I’m training him to walk right now because I really want to take him to the park.”
Likewise, her husband, 49-year-old Kevin Cheng (鄭嘉穎), is also anticipating the day their two-months-old son can play tennis. Grace shared, “Kevin was watching tennis one day and he asked me at how many months old can the baby play tennis with him. I told him the baby won’t even know how to walk at one, wait until he is older first.”
In addition to the couple’s eagerness for their son to walk and play sports, they’re waiting to wean their newborn from nighttime feedings. “My friend told me all I need to do is tell him he needs to quit night milk, so I said it’ll be great if it was really that easy,” Grace said laughing. “Of course, when I got home I told him that, and he just looked back at me with big round eyes. He definitely did not know what I was saying. But luckily, Kevin helps feed him, especially since Kevin’s a late sleeper, so he helps feed the 3 a.m. round before going to bed.”
However, sometimes Kevin forgets to remove the baby handkerchief from his shoulder after feeding Rafael and will walk around like that. Such forgetful moments also happen to Grace, who stepped out to buy something to eat the other day and found a baby handkerchief in her pocket. Smiling, Grace revealed, “That’s when it finally hit me that I’m a mother now.”
The new mother also expressed she has a better grasp of taking care of her son than she did before. “I can tell what his cries mean now – whether he’s crying because his diaper needs to be changed or because he’s hungry.”
Busy caring for her child, the actress said she will focus on being a “professional mother” in the meantime and will not consider filming dramas at the moment. Thus, Kevin will shoulder the responsibility of earning money for baby formula. “He often has to fly for work, so I try my best to Facetime him so he can see our son. I told him it’s ok as long as it’s in moderation,” Grace said.
This article is written by MelodyC for JayneStars.com.
i think the newborn stage is the easiest among all the different growing up phases. my 6yo gives me major heart burn pretty much every hour of the day and i don’t look forward to teenage years with her….
@m0m0 haha yea. You don’t know how easy it was until you pass it then realise the current stage is worse T_T
That’s kinda dumb – 2 mths – they’re nowhere steady. Their heads still need support until 4 mths. In fact, she might be doing more harm than good.
Earlier walkers are around 9 mths.
ANY early childhood education or basic parenting book will explain basic physical development.
She should enjoy the peaceful times … once they know how to roll over … toddle and walk unsteadily – life is so UNpeaceful bec they fall down!
If she wants Development … hand eye co-ordination, or building mry (ie mental stimulation) is so much more productive and effective
Haha all parents want their kids to grow up faster when they’re babies. I can’t blame them – I was like that with my sisters, too. They’re SO much work.
It’s when they’re finally out of that baby period that we look back on those baby days fondly and reminisce how quickly they grow up. And then want them to revert to being babies again lol.
They are possibly the most annoying celebrity parents in the HK entertainment industry.
@hazel GC has been annoying all this while…no secret about that. they should enjoy their baby son for as long as possible.
this is the cutest stage…of course there are night feeds, injections, fever to deal with.
how in the world can a 2 month old be forced to learn walking???
i hope force training the baby to walk at 2 months will not affect his bones and in contrast affect his growth. Quite lazy thinking to want to skip the tough process and for them to grow up quick…
@jimmyszeto
My thoughts exactly! She sounds like a lazy mom. Maybe she was not ready to be a mom in the first place? She did have a shotgun marriage so that speaks volumes.
@hetieshou To be fair, no one is 100% ready to be a mom. Even when they want to be moms, often times they’re not prepared for how grueling childcare can be. As someone who hasn’t had a child yet, but has taken care of and somewhat helped raise two siblings, I can tell you firsthand how difficult and intensely draining that process is. It doesn’t make Grace lazy, it just makes her human.
But, I do think she’s not the type who likes to stay home and have her whole life consumed by a kid. You can tell because she was out and about and doing events in 2 months.
@coralie Its difficult in this day and age fitting into the housewife category, which most would assume is the ones who are best mothers. Woman are craving successful careers as much as men these days, and the world has a lot more to offer than to stay at home 24/7 with children.
It can be handled terribly though, as in the case of Yang Mi. Equal efforts in upbringing should be shared amongst both mother and father.
@coralie
Oh no trust me, I know it is hard to be a mom more than anyone. I helped and am still helping to take care of my nephews. I even took care of both my elderly parents before they passed away. I can tell you that taking care of elders is 100 times way harder than a kid.I have fed, changed diapers and did everything for my parents like if they are big babies. I have been there and done that. It is true that not no one is ready 100% but Grace is a bit lazy in my opinion. I know because my brother’s wife is the same way. She just sits on her butt and has the label mom but yet does nothing. She just wants the kids to grow up so she can do less. If you do not call that lazy then I do not know what to call it.Not to say she is truly like that but that is the impression that I get. I can be wrong though.
She definitely does not want to be a housewife even if she can afford to. Most people these days can not afford it as who can live on one income unless you are well off or wealthy. In her case, she is wealthy. But the way she is being a “mom” I think it is better for her to be out and about as she does not seem to be want to take care of her son much. She has plenty of help and support too while many do not have that.
@hetieshou
That’s an accurate description of my wife too. Some just don’t have the heart in it to do it. Some mums just enjoy taking pics and selfies to post how cute but are lacklustre when need to carry out the baby tasks.My wife just carried on sleeping even when the babies work up crying of hunger at night…
@jimmyszeto you sure your wife didn’t have postpartum blues or something? It’s also really common in the first few months after delivering but can have long term durability.
@coralie
Nah she still enjoys posting pictures or rewatching videos of the kids saying ‘aww how cute?’. I usually reply to her, well the kids are in the next room, why don’t you do something useful and spend some time with them in in person rather than gawping at videos?’
@jimmyszeto
I feel bad for you as my brother’s wife is the same way. She just wants to work and put money in her pocket and make herself beautiful. She buys everything for herself and spends money on designer bags, make up, beauty enhancements and everything for herself. She puts herself above all and neglects her own kids. My brother and I do all of the work. He is like a single father. His wife is there for show only. She may regret it later if her kids start to hate her.
I actually have an aunt like that. Growing up I always wondered why her kids and her do not have a bond in spite of being mother and children. I recently found out it was because she never took care of them as kids. Her mom and cousin did all of the work. Being a bad and lazy mom eventually catches up to you. I guess that is what you call karma. Hope your wife realizes that before it is too late. We suffer the consequences of our actions.
@hetieshou
Well..you have got to here this! My wife likes to make our daughter cry because she enjoys seeing her cry and think it’s cute. It’s a sick fetish, I know! Me and my parents are fuming everytime..
@jimmyszeto Not sure that’s good for the child’s psyche….
@jimmyszeto oh dear :/ that’s terrible for you to see that, how your wife enjoy making your kid cry because it’s cute 🙁 my mum doesn’t really take care of me, but she’s not right in the mind, maybe autism, it’s not until after I’m 25+, know what autism is and realise she might have it. She only see things her way, and think she loves me but doesn’t do anything that demonstrate love. Anyway, my point is my mom expected me to love her, and while I feel responsible for her, I don’t love her or like to be close to her, rather I feel pity for her :/ and that’s how I think many Asian children with neglecting moms feel. We were raised to be responsible but we can’t love what not given
@heteishou yea, I agree taking care of elderly are much harder, with children, you can see they are growing and understand you, with elders, it’s the opposite, they lose the understanding as time goes on, and you know it’s irreversible. With children shaping their personalities as time goes on, our parents/elders lose their personalities. With one, you see the reward, with one, you see the end 🙁
@littlefish I feel like I understand the things you say about relationship with parents. I felt the way you do about your mum as she didnt really try when she was younger, didnt offer any affection yet expected respect. We are not sure now whether she was dealing with post partum depression as hee behaviour has luckily improved over the years. I guess she was maturing along with us as she was very young and naiive when she had us. Nowadays, parents can still do my head in but I can safely say that I do feel love for them.
@jimmyszeto some people like to make babies cry, so that they can be the savior and comfort them. it activates and fulfills their desire to be needed. and they feel powerful, too. i don’t have a solution for ya, but i think this is actually pretty common.
@coralie Ive actually never heard of such a thing. They cry enough themselves without adults making them anyway…
@megamiaow woops, i meant kids & toddlers. because they’re aware enough to do things like cry and then be consoled by their parents. unlike babies, who just cry all day with no understanding of what’s going on. i think there’s probably a condition for this, but i forget what it’s called.
@coralie Uhm, yea, I’m with @megamiaow lol, I don’t know anyone who is doing that, unless they are slightly wrong in the head lol.
@littlefish well i’m sure there is a condition for it, even if i don’t know the exact terminology. it’s very common, just that most people refrain, since it’s not a nice thing to do.
as an example, did you know some people can even have violent subconscious tendencies when they see cute things/babies? it’s why they want to pinch cute baby cheeks when they see them or want to hug and squeeze a baby hard when they have affections for them. my sister loves to bite her daughter when she was a baby. not hard, of course, but she still does it. i’m sure that doesn’t feel pleasant. these things are actually very normal conditions for all of us, but of course as rational beings, we refrain. but sometimes humans slip up and they still pinch cute baby cheeks or squeeze & hug babies hard.
@hetieshou Idk. I think it’s kind of unfair to think Grace is lazy when breastfeeding is very draining on women and zaps all their energy. Then to do it every couple of hours too, makes it very tiresome. She does have a lot of help, but there’s nothing wrong with still wanting her kid to grow up quicker. The first few months of infancy are the hardest and the most hectic.
I’m taking care of my elderly dad, too, though I haven’t reached the do everything stage for him yet. I don’t see it being very far away though.
I guess complaining isn’t helpful for others to hear since everyone sees them as a wealthy couple with tons of help, so they don’t deserve the right to complain? I don’t agree with that since it’s difficult for everyone, so everyone has a right to say something, even if it’s negative.
@coralie Uhm most breastfeeding mums have to go through what grace does, but worse because of financial strains, and/or no family help. You can hope your child to grow up fast, but not so that you can dodge/cut short breastfeeding lol. Also it’s crazy to try cut the night feed at less than 3mo :/ if the child is hungry and want to feed at night time, that’s what you have to do >_<
@littlefish just because most moms don’t voice what grace did, doesn’t mean they don’t think it. and no one says she’s trying to make her kid grow up faster to dodge BFing. it’s probably because it’s tiring and troublesome to always have a non-walking dependent around. when they learn to walk and move around, you as a parent have more freedom, which i can totally understand.
and can people stop making these false equivalencies? just because someone has it worse off than her doesn’t make her suffering less. everyone goes through a degree of suffering and voicing it out doesn’t make them ungrateful. it just means they aren’t able to handle frustrations on their part adequately, but they’re still valid. it’s people that judge others all the time that makes it hard for others to express negative opinions and it doesn’t make the conversation move forward.
@coralie Uhm, i agree we shouldn’t pass too many judgements, and it might hinder a conversation. However, judgements aren’t all bad, what hinder a conversation is one completely ignore or not open to other’s POV.
Actually the first few months isn’t hectic at all, it’s pretty cruisie lol. Toddler is the worse time, where you have to deal with tantrum, breastfeeding and a child with a mind of their own and a pair of legs xD
@jimmyszeto her comments are brainless. now she knows how difficult it is to bring up a child.
How can one train a 2 mths old baby to walk!! They will walk when they are ready!!! Babies walk at a different ages!!
@applelim
Maybe they are desperate for their baby to be the best. Maybe they want him to be the quickest and cleverest baby. Hence the Rafael name and forcing him to walk at 2 months. They need to chill. Not everyone can be the best. I hate competitive parents. I hope she does not damage the babies bones and joints doing this nor stunt his growth. They are very vulnerable at that age…
@jimmyszeto boy, if they are really that competitive, I feel sorry for Rafa when he’s past the toddler stage. If they really are pushing him to become the “best” then really he’s definitely going to be mentally harmed. I hope Grace is just exaggerating when she said that she’s teaching a 2 month old how to walk..
Wow 2 months.. I started walking when I was 10 months . Babies will walk when they’re ready to. 2 months is just way too early m. Well good luck to them i guess…
I think Grace Chan is an ignorant 1st-time mother. She said she is training her 2-month old baby to walk. I think she is crazy. A 2-month old needs his head supported by an adult’s arm when he/she is being held. Their neck muscles are not fully developed at that age to support the weight of their heads. Otherwise the baby’s neck will be injured easily.
Boys usually start walking at a slower pace than girls. Baby girls can start walking when she is 10 months old, but boys usually start walking when they are 1 year old with some minor support. Most babies can walk by themselves at 14 months old, but some will still take longer time. When babies are ready, they will surely let you know what they can do. There is no need to rush them.
@orchid123
thanks for reminding me! It has been a while. I now remember the weak neck in babies. Even when hold the baby we should just our arm to support the baby’s head. yeh..conclusion is crazy to teach him to talk…
@orchid123 It will be ironic if baby Rafa doesn’t walk till 15 mo, which is perfectly normal but amusing given their expectations
BTW, it is an old wives tale that boys walk slower. There really is no difference between the two.
@potatochip
Maybe your are right, “it is an old wives tale that boys walk slower.” However, many of my friends’ daughters walked earlier than their boys.
@orchid123
I think it depends a lot on the weight of the baby. If he is a slim baby, he will start walking earlier than a chubby one.
Girls usually start talking earlier than boys.
@orchid123
But my brother was heavier and the same height as me as a baby and he walked at around 10 months while I was over a year old when I started walking… The talking was reversed though, he wasn’t talking until almost 2 i think…
@rila
I can’t remember how long it took my son to walk but I have the video of his first day walking. I’m sure Grace is desperate for her baby to beat all of our kids though…
@potatochip @orchid123 it has more to do with the size of the baby. A small baby will walk much faster than the big baby, due to lower centre of gravity. A tall slim baby will have just as much difficult to walk as a big fat tall baby lol. My son was slim and tall, and he started to walk on his own 1 week after his 1st birthday. All his friends, roughly same age, that are a head shorter all can walk from about 9-10mo. While his other friends, who are his height, all started to walk within 1 month after their first birthday.
@orchid123
I agree and maybe she was never ready to be a mom in the first place? I feel bad for her son if that is the case.
I hope her comments are taken out of context because that is just ridiculous. Best exercise for baby is tummy time. That’s how to get him stronger.
2 month olds need lots of naps and consistency. Being out and about all the time will just make him cranky.
And it sounds like she is not primarily breastfeeding anymore which is not surprising with how early she went out and about. It was going to be difficult to establish a milk supply. I am not shaming her for that, because there may be obligations and stressors that we don’t know about. As long as Rafa is growing and happy, it doesn’t matter in the long run.
But it does highlight her inexperienced views of parenthood.
They will learn. And hopefully they will pause and enjoy these sweet fleeting moments of baby Rafa. No need to rush it.
@potatochip
Maybe Grace should try to get the baby to be the youngest in the world to talk. At least it will be more healthier to the kid than forcing him to walk. Yeh.. I think her words must have been taken out of context. Not even an idiot will risk injuring the vulnerable bones of their own child. I was worried even holding my baby correctly to avoid hurting him…
What is she even saying? lol Training a 2 months baby to walk? smh A professional mother?
She should go asked her adopted parents see if she can walk yet around 2 months old only? Boy what was she thinking an animal? I know some animals already started walking when they’re born. I’m sorry but she sounds a little dumb when talking about teach her son how to walked already when he’s only 2 months old.