Wu Chun Criticized For Indulgent Parenting Style
Wu Chun‘s (吳尊) parenting decisions have become the center of debates ever since reality program Dad is Back <爸爸回来了> hit the air. Not only is Wu Chun criticized by viewers over his daughter Nei Nei‘s recent shower scene, his overly doting behavior also attracted online backlash.
Dad is Back not only showcases celebrity fathers’ relationships with their children, it also provides viewers a glimpse into their parenting styles. Perhaps his super idol status has raised the public’s expectations, Wu Chun seems to suffer the strongest criticism so far. After the uproar over displaying his daughter’s naked body on-screen, the 34-year-old dad of two now stands accused of spoiling his children.
Although Nei Nei is already three and a half years old, Wu Chun seems a bit too lenient about potty-training and continues to allow her to wear disposable diapers. While other parents easily take on a more authoritative stance to rein in rebellious behaviors, he experienced some difficulty with getting his daughter under control. Unable to convince Nei Nei to eat her meal, Wu Chun resorted to using her favorite candy as an incentive. Some viewers found this a poor reinforcement technique, convinced that it will do more harm than good.
Others also criticized Wu Chun for being over-protective. Picking Nei Nei up after school, Wu Chun brought her baby stroller so that she can avoid walking on the slippery ground. Many found this an exaggerated effort to keep his daughter safe and believe that he is coddling the child. Fortunately, despite Wu Chun’s repeated pleas, Nei Nei refused to sit inside the stroller and walked the entire way.
Viewers found even more reasons to condemn Wu Chun’s obsessive parenting behavior as the father-daughter headed to his commercial gym. The camera crew highlighted the back of a gym shirt on display, printed with a list titled “Rules For Dating My Daughter”. While the ten criteria show how much he cares for his daughter, some of the items come off as overly indulgent and even threatening. Not only must Nei Nei’s future suitors have a job and be in good health, they should also be “reachable 24 hours a day” and be prepared to give Nei Nei control of all of their money. It will also take more than wealth to pass Wu Chun’s test, as he has declared that he will keep a spying eye at all times, and is even “prepared to go to jail” to protect his daughter.
Source: ifeng.com
This article is written by Katrine for JayneStars.com.
I find it hard to be upset at men who treat their daughters like princesses. I think its the cutest thing. Its alright to indulge children up to 3, but anything above that will need to start requiring discipline. They cant be coddled forever, even if as a parent thats all you wanna do.
Wu Chun may not have the best parenting skills but there is no doubt he loves his daughter. He may indulge in her but her mum may not be doing so. Who are we to judge how his daughter will grow up? On the other hand, If Wu Chun did not lie to his fans for so long, I am certain he would be be given such a hard time by the audiences and media. He wants to use this program to get his popularity back but I dont think it is very easy.
If that’s the way Wu Zun is raising his daughter, he deserves to be criticized! Does he want to raise a spoiled girl who will grow up with Princess illness?
Wingsan – do you have kids of your own? If you do, what do you suppose is the best approach to discipline a toddler?
Who are we to criticized? Not every parent is perfect and we all know that. We are humans and we have to do what is best for us and for them. I understand that everyone is criticizing him because of his parenting style and how the media has portrayed him. It’s not his fault. He’s doing the best that he can to provide love and a roof over his head for his family. And plus, he may be struggling because he may not know what is right and wrong.
I’ve seen Hollywood celebrities teaching their child like they’re grown and acting foolish so his parenting cannot be worse than they are.
I don’t see anything wrong with spoiling his own daughter. Up until I got marry and move out, I don’t have to lift a finger at home. My dad will peel the skin and unseed the grapes for me cause that’s how I like my grapes. My dad will blow dry my hair for me. No matter what time I work he will get up to make me breakfast(I’m talking about 12am, 2am,3am). Blow streams out of soups before letting me drink so I wouldn’t burn myself. Go to the bus station to pick me up from work. Tell me to quit my job cause he think I’m working too much(I’m only part time). We’re not even rich. Anyway I think I turn out perfectly fine.
hahaha, similar to my family. my parents drive me anywhere, pick me up when i need them. buy almost everything i want….up until i was 23 …lOL
That is so true. My sister was the only daughter and she got the most attention and pampered a lot by our parents and her three brothers but she grows up into a sensible and nice teenager despite it all. It depends on the individuals.
Your DAD did all that? Sorry I find that totally weird that a full grown adult needs a dad to dry her hair or peel her grapes.
me too, for the grown ups, i think we are the one who should serve our parents, they have not much time
It seems like you are a spoilt princess yourself Katkat. Not that there’s anything wrong with it, just as you and your family enjoy that arrangement.
No offence, so, is your husband serving you the same way now? I mean, when you get married, your father’s role would be “transferred” by default to your husband, right?
As long as he’s doing it because he loves his daughter and not for publicity (or over-compensating for the shower scene), then the public should just leave him alone.
I totally agree with you.
Yeap. The shower scene is too much, but other things are not that bad.
The “10 Rules” thing has been trending on the internet for years… the China audience probably thought it was entirely written by Wu Chun when in fact NOT.
I’ve seen it so many times and I think it’s really sweet and it proves how far a dad would go for his daughter. Viewers shouldn’t be critical over this.
Wow, they’re even picking on the t-shirt? Plenty of tees with 10 rules of this and that out there, is there such a need to be so serious?
He’s spoiling her but as long as it’s not endanger to her health, it’s ok. From what mentioned above, she insisted to not take the stroller, showing signs of self independence.
“He’s spoiling her but as long as it’s not endanger to her health, it’s ok. From what mentioned above, she insisted to not take the stroller, showing signs of self independence.”
Watch the show. He has no knowledge of his role to his daughter. Spoiling isn’t love.
You said it yourself. It’s a show.
I’m not going to get extra-critical and crying Wu Zun how ‘wrong’ and he is raising his daughter like the worst father in the universe.
“He’s spoiling her but as long as it’s not endanger to her health, it’s ok. From what mentioned above, she insisted to not take the stroller, showing signs of self independence.”
Watch the show to understand your own comment. Maybe you’re able to learn a thing or two from the show. Nothing to do with “crying Wu Zun how ‘wrong’ and he is raising his daughter like the worst father in the universe.” Do you have any clue what you’re talking about? Don’t think so. LOL!
i am 21 and my parents are still overprotected haha.
It’s a father’s nature to be protective of their daughters. The audience is too harsh on Wu Zun.
The T-shirt was a joke… Honestly it’s not even that serious. If he does this, he’s criticized. If he does that, he’s criticized. Just leave him alone. Every parent has their own ways of raising up their kid. Not every one of them ends up spoiled.
Good for Nei Nei for refusing to get in the protective seat. It is good for children to walk. When they fall, they will getup and walk again. He is being too overprotective her, children learn by experience. All children fall, it is a part of life.
I can’t always reach my wife 24 hrs a day. Why the hell should Nei Nei’s suitor be reachable 24 hours a day, is Wu Chun trying to control the man or what. Sick thinking. Yes, I can agree with the young man having a job, shows independence and responsibility. As for the health, if he has certain conditions, it would be cruel for Nei Nei to abandon him. If he is HIV positive , or has other STDs etc, then I can understand any father not wanting his daughter to want such a man.
When children do not do eat their meals, we as parents should never bribe them with candy to get them to comply. Not only is it wrong, it is setting a bad and unhealthy dinner example. This man is a loser.
Wu Chun deserves all the criticism he gets and then some.
@Trini: Get a life, don’t take things too seriously. That shirt was a joke and its sold/worn everywhere.
Every parents have their way of parenting the child, and from what I see its still borderline acceptable. Fyi, Im not even a wuchun fans. I never watch his work.
totally agree with melissa, i was like WTH they are even criticizing about the t-shirt???
@Melissa
Thank you for suggesting I get a life, you are indeed so kind, but I have to decline. You see, I already have a life and it is a good one too. Please offer someone else the life. Better yet, keep it for yourself cause I think you can use it. Have a nice life.
It’s his child, he can parent her anyway he wants.
Here’s Wu Chun’s segment from the show. You guys can judge again after watching it.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3zhcGrVN7VA
Wu Chun has given the reason why he still let his girl wear pampers when going out. Seeing how much of a clean freak he is, I can totally believe his reasoning.
I think his daughter will turn out fine. He might be indulging, but, for important things like going to school, he didn’t give in.
I can see a very loving relationship between father and daughter.
Thanks for sharing the video link.
This is the first time I see Wu Chun in video. Photos don’t do him justice. Wu Chun looks way better than Linda Chung. Just saying since so many people say they look alike.
Nei Nei is so smart to understand both English and Chinese. And, Nei Nei is only 3-yo. Wow!!!
“Nei Nei is so smart to understand both English and Chinese. And, Nei Nei is only 3-yo. Wow!!!”
A LOT of infants in South East Asia region (especially Singapore and Malaysia) are bilingual. Some know more than 2 languages too! Considering it is a result from the environment they are living in, that can hardly qualify as an evidence of a child’s intelligence.
For instance, I have an Indian colleague whose 2 year old infant daughter can speak Hindi, English and Mandarin because in her daycare center, the latter two languages are commonly used. My own nieces speak English, Mandarin, Cantonese and Malay. Are those evidences of being smart? Nope. Environmental influences is the main factor.
Thanks for sharing!
I don’t get what the big fuss is about him and his parenting skills, personally I also think they have a loving father daughter relationship!
Also Makes me feel like I missed out on a part of childhood because my parents were not like this.
Wu Chun and Nei Nei are everywhere. EVERYWHERE!