Francis Ng (吳鎮宇) does not believe in the modern parenting style where the children are handheld and coddled. He does not believe children should have lots of freedom and extended parent-child interaction. Instead, he believes in tough love. He is convinced that his 4-year-old son, Feynman, will only learn through hardships and failures. Francis even admitted to pouring hot food onto Feynman’s hands and pushing his son down the stairs. Dissatisfied with Hong Kong’s relaxed education system, Francis intends to send his son to Singapore, a country of strict regulations and restrictions.
Francis Crushes His Son’s Confidence
Francis shared that his strict parenting style is to repeatedly attack his son’s confidence, allowing him to learn from his mistakes. “I’m a father who always attacks my son’s confidence. When my son had a dispute with other children at the playground, I won’t interfere. Only then will he learn to be independent. Even when he is bullied or hit, I won’t move. I will only teach him after. Next time when he comes across a similar situation, he will know to avoid it.”
Francis believes in playing the authoritative father and not showing affections to Feynman. He said, “I really don’t understand why there is a need to be in close contact with the son. I find the need to mess with my son, to threaten and to shout at him. Once when my son was two, he was moving around when he was having his meal. Immediately I placed a plate of hot food on his two hands and he never dared to fidget the next time he eats. It is our house rule that he needs to be accompanied at the stairs. However he chose not to listen so once, so I pushed him a little down the stairs. Then he realized that he could fall and when he falls, he will experience pain. So the next time he would not disobey again!”
Francis admitted that his severe tactics made Feynman fear his own father. The little boy is much closer to Francis’ wife, Fiona Wong (王麗萍).
Right after filming Triumph in the Skies 2 <衝上雲霄II>, Francis went to Singapore to search for a school for Feynman. As a result, he was not able to attend any of the promotional events for Triumph in the Skies 2 in late July. Since Fiona was born in Singapore, she is familiar with the rigorous schools there.
Though the Hong Kong education system is known to be stressful, Francis felt it is not enough for his son. He wants Feynman to learn in an even more stressful environment. An insider revealed, “The generation of children who have been educated by the old spoon-feeding method are now parents. If they can afford it, they will pay to let their children study in international schools. However, Francis thinks otherwise. He thinks a young child needs to be disciplined. If the child does anything wrong, he needs to be punished and scolded and not be brought up in a comfortable environment. As a result, he has chosen a public school in Singapore. As his wife is a Singaporean, there is no documentation to process. The purpose of this trip was to go for the interview. If he is chosen, they will have to fly to Singapore to process the registration. Despite flying to and fro, Francis feels it’s worth it.”
After returning to Hong Kong on August 8, Francis went to China the following day. A couple of days ago, Fiona was seen bringing Feynman to Wan Chai for his English lessons. Without the presence of his father, Feynman was apparently more at ease.
Francis’ school of choice in Singapore is Pei Chun Public School. With a rich history and fantastic facilities, such as two standard pools, the school manages to produce good results year after year. Known for its rigorous school ethos, the school focuses on its strong traditional Chinese culture and values such as honesty and righteousness, exactly in line with Francis’ military school of thought.
The education system in Singapore not only emphasizes on developing a child’s education, it also offers rich sports programs. Compared to Hong Kong’s ratio of 1 teacher to 30 students, preschools in Singapore have a ratio of 1 teacher to 10 students. The entire preschool curriculum is based entirely on the development of the language skills of the children. New parents can sit in on the first few lessons to understand how the lessons are conducted.
This article is written by Karen for JayneStars.com.