Jessica Hsuan Broke Up With Ruan Bester
Prior to Jessica Hsuan’s (宣萱) 41st birthday, she suddenly announced breaking up with her boyfriend for two years, Ruan Bester. While they were dating, the pair were passionately in love. On Friday, July 22nd, after returning from Singapore to Hong Kong, Jessica and Ruan attended Hacken Lee’s (李克勤) concert together. Afterwards, Jessica’s break up news circulated suddenly. When contacted by the reporter, Jessica appeared to be very calm and explained the reason for the split.
Nothing To Do With A Third Party
Jessica said, “Thank you for your concern. I am feeling okay. Perhaps everyone felt that the break up was sudden. However, the problem existed between us for a long time. We tried to save the relationship, but it did not work out.” Jessica noted that the biggest problem between them was that they possessed different values in life. They were not teenage boys and girls and easily change for each other. Since their pace were inconsistent, they could not continue the relationship. Jessica emphasized that the break up was not due to a third party involvement and was unrelated to [lack of ] emotional connection.
Reconciliation Possibility Low
When the reporter pointed out that Jessica and Ruan had attended Hacken’s concert together last week, she said that they did not decide to break up at that point yet. They decided to break up several days ago. Asked whether there was any possibility of reconciliation, Jessica said that she can not be certain about the future. Since the break up decision was decided over a long period of time, Jessica indicated that reconciliation would be difficult.
Did Not Take Vacation to Heal Love Injury
Jessica admitted that breaking up was always painful. However, she and Ruan had experienced happiness while together.There was no need to take a holiday to heal her feelings. Jessica added, “Breaking up is not a big issue. It is a greater problem to realize that you can not be together after marriage. It is a pity to give up a two-year relationship, however their was no need to force staying together due to this reason. How will you continue to be together for the rest of your life?”
Never Possessed Marital Intentions
Jessica and Ruan met with their parents in the past. Jessica especially traveled to South Africa to meet Ruan’s parents and marriage rumors were rife. While dating, Jessica often picked up her boyfriend after work and meeting each other’s parents was the sweetest thing. This was often typical of lovers. Jessica said that Ruan never proposed to her and that they did not possess the intention to get married.
Regarding her break up decision, Jessica’s parents had no opinion. Her parents just wanted her to be happy. What qualities did a man need to possess in order to marry her? Jessica noted, “I will not think about when I will date again. My work can be within my control. However, love feelings can not be controlled. I will just entrust these matters to God’s arrangement.”
Source: Ming Pao
Jayne: It sounded like an amiable break up under mutual agreement and careful consideration. I hope Jessica finds another love relationship with someone who possesses the same values and direction in love soon!
break up year.
sad to see her didnt workout.
poor jessica, wish her find boyfriend better than him, hope soon get it.
this piece of news is rather unexpected. but im glad to see that jessica is strong and hope she’ll find someone suitable for her in the near future. God always have a better plan ahead for everyone. looking fwd to her new series with Myolie! heard it may be the anniversary series this year?
Agree that it was so sudden since their relationship appeared to be going very smoothly in the past. I remember him giving Jessica 100 roses for her birthday and a co-worker (Macy Chan?) on set was very jealous.
However, isn’t two years a little too long to realize that their values conflicted?
But I agree with Jessica that they are not teenagers and cannot change each others minds so easily.
i think it was nancy wu
I heard her series with Myolie might be anniversary too but I also heard that Myolie has the more attractive and challenging character.
Good riddance.
Tahnk god she dumped the gweilo. They never looked good together. Now I hope finds a nice CHinese boyfriend.
I don’t get why I see so many Asian females dating gweilos. It seems very disturbing. I hope Jessica finds a Chinese bf too
Why so disturbing? What’s wrong? She has a westernized thinking, so naturally she will click with someone with westernized thinking.
if she is happy with a gwailo then so be it. she is getting too old for many chinese to consider her as a partner without being billed “soft rice eater” and “digging old well” LOL
She’s now a 40+ leftover independent woman. Maybe it’s hard for her to find a Chinese man who can fit in to her strong independence and age.
@Jeff and Mr. Chow,
Sorry but you guys should NOT being saying that at all. Those are such racist and close minded comments. When you love someone, then their race/nationality should not matter at all. Those that think that you should only marry within your race are too close minded, racist and prejudice. I personally would NEVER ever date a guy like that at all…
White men are not bad looking, many of them are actually quite handsome, especially with blond hair and green/blue eyes.
Being a wrestle fan, many white wrestlers in WWE Wrestling are HOT!!! Just looking at their build up bodies are sexy!
@ Funn
Some men like to keep their women folk for themselves. Happen in all races. I read a case of a white boy being assaulted by a group of black guys because he dated a black girl. When will men learn that women are not their property?
We never heard women complaining about the men of their race marrying women from other race.
Whoa, I think Jeff and Mr. Chow just sent China back about a hundred years into the past.
Actually it is people like you that will send CHina back a hundred years.
People like you who will have children that will not know a lick of Chinese.
I am willing to bet most of you who disagree with me are female. Infact you people have proven my point.
You appear anti-gweilo. Do you have a problem with ‘gweilo’?
“Jessica noted that the biggest problem between them was that they possessed different values in life.”
After 2 years? well better late than never. My guess is he wanted her to retire from showbiz and move with him wherever he may be going and she refused and so the breakup. No good relationship without 3rd party involved and when there is still emotional connection (as she says it) will suddenly just break up.
im sure during those 2 years they struggled to compromise on the differences. 2 years is actually pretty short.
i’m glad she’s doing well w/ the breakup. he was sooooo cute!
My guess is that they have different values and ideals when it came to marriage. I would guess that Jessica would marry him in a heartbeat if he proposed but he hasn’t after 2 years. Caucasians think differently when it comes to marriage. 2 years could have been long enough for him to decide Ifshe was “the one” for him to propose if he was ready to settle down. No matter how westernized Jessica is, she is still Chinese and feels that she is getting on the years and should get married soon. Maybe she wanted to “retire” after marriage but the white guy wants her to work and put in 50/50. That’s what I see with a lot of white guy/Chinese girl couples here in Canada. Rarely do I see the white guy work only while the girl sits at home. Maybe the cost of living here in Vancouver is so high that both ppl have to work!
Really? LOL!!!! I’m Chinese and my husband is Chinese, and we both work and put in 50/50 to support the house. Why do I need to stay home when I am capable of making my own money. It feel damn GOOD when you make your own money and spend your OWN money.
Anyways, wish Jessica find her other half soon.
I live in Vancouver too. The cost of living here is very high and a lot of my married friends have to both work in order to afford housing/food/etc and this is regardless of race. My partner and I are an inter-raced couple and one of us stays home while the other works. I don’t think working arrangements have anything to do with race. Not sure why interracial dating always seem to be such a point of contention for some.
Better now than divorced after getting married with kids. at least it sounds amiable.
At least it is a lot better than the others break ups this year (for now)
Whats with some many asian girls with gweilo? With the media keep on promoting these couples, it just keep on brainwashing asian girls to accept it. Come on lets have some pride in ourselves.
Amen brother, u will get a lot hate from women because they are the ones reaping the benefits of the gweilos’ fetish for Asian women.
They call us racist, but that can not be more far from the truth. We just have more pride in a our people and culture than they do.
I don’t hate white people, I just don’t wanna see my daughter dating one.
You sound racist.
I don’t see a problem with dating white men. If the white male respect you and treats you good then why not?
Would I date a white man? No, unless they hot and have hot body like those WWE Wrestlers Superstars. But I don’t see why Chinese cannot date white.
I know many Asian men who are abusive of their wife. You know how Asian men is back then, they would go home ask their wife to bring them food or even beat their wife if she not listen. Thankfully this has been improve now with the younger Asian generations.
I, myself see many white men who are good to their wife. They do not beat their wife like some Asian men does. My high school friend married to a white man and she happy.
We in the 21st century already, try to be open minded.
“Would I date a white man? No, unless they hot and have hot body like those WWE Wrestlers Superstars.”
Somehow, I can’t read this comment without thinking about superficiality.
it gets harder and harder for a worman touching forties to find a husband and have kids..i feel sorry for all those tvb stars who are already i their mid thirties and still single..time is running out for them to find a husband and have a family why can’t they have both a career and a family evwn when they are at their peak instead of waiting till they are on the decline then start conseidering marriage
I think it’s shocking how many commentators are against the Chinese+White mix. Why does it have to be about colour? In the core, shouldn’t you look at whether these couples have found the right partner rather than judging them on their ethnic choice? This has nothing to do with whether we are proud of our ethnicity or not. I am Chinese and my husband’s white, but that doesn’t mean I don’t have pride in Chinese culture.
They are racist who say that in which I am not surprise right now.
Werd. Sorry, but haven’t some people ever heard of “personal preferences”. But it goes both ways. My brothers’ like white and hispanic girls haha and both have only dated White and Hispanic girls. They were oddly accused of being racist by another Asian person too.
Her and Louis koo should date. Love them together.
LOL, louis is prolly dating a plastic barbie half his age.
children might also be an issue.
I don’t think Louis is dating at this time since I have not heard of any news of him dating anyone lately.
Most important is compatibility. The race doesn’t matter. Even if 2 people are of the same race and culture, they can still have very different values and perceptions of life. Although it’s sad that it didn’t work out between Jessica and Ruan, it’s better than they break up now than later because they would have wasted even more time. I hope they find their ideal mates soon!
Word…they know to move out before things got too late and did more damage..
Agree with you Aly! It is better that they break up now rather than wait until later when things can get more ugly. This truly is a break up year for celebs. I guess it just wasn’t meant to be… I hope that they find their true love soon. It sounded like an amicable split so they are probably still very good friends. Being good friends for life is not bad either…
Even though Jessica is 40+, she is still smoking hot. Shes better than looking than all the popular tvb actresses today such as big nose Tavia, Linda Chung, and Kate Tsui.
Yap, I totally agree with you. she looks very young and pretty despite of the age.
Well she has not had kids yet…
U can not possibly be serious. Those three u mentioned are prettier than Jessica. And I am a fan of Jessica
Just curious, did Jessica ever date someone in the entertainment circle? I know she was rumored with Gallen Lo.
She dated Dickie Cheung before.
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She dated Dicky Cheung before.
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She dated Cheung Wai Kin before.
Note: Cheung Wai Kin’s english name got with post stuck in ‘awaiting moderation’ status.
Kidd,
The filter prevents language abuse and retain PG-13 friendliness. 🙂
ROFL!!!!! Poor Cheung Wai Kin’s curious English name. I would have never guessed it could be him!!!
On topic : I’m fan of Jessica, she’s great artist with her won personality onscreen. Loves her series always and hope she’ll find a better man next time!
Off topic : Lovessssssssss her hair, I notice Charmaine and Tavia has similar hairstyle too.
I am a bit shocked by this break up but hey, what have we all not seen?? Anyways, wish the best for both of them regardless…
I also wanted to add that at least this was not an ugly break up like with others we have heard…
This is sudden. When they were dating, there were news where Jes said that they are comparitable and have same views and values in life, blah blah!! Well, now we know, when dating everything is perfect, but when break up, there always be a reason.
Maybe Jessica caught her boyfriend in “action” with another woman in bed…thus the breakup incurred.
@Veejay,
If that’s the case, then I doubt anyone can have a friendly breakup.
So far there were no details of their breakup, all we know is Jessica has broke up with her bf of years.. the end. Catching her bf in action with another woman was just a speculation with no base. Not sure if Jessica has a friendly breakup with her bf or not but she seems okay with it,guess with her nature, breakup isn’t a thing that will drag her for too long in term of recovering.
I just reRead this news of her back when they about to get married. And clearly she stated that they have same values, same view in life, and both loves dogs. Also, she said he propose to her.
But now they break up she said he never propose to her and they not have much similiarities in life. It is contradicting, LOL!!!
The news can be read below:
http://www.jaynestars.com/news/jessica-hsuan-getting-married-in-2011/
Well, we never really know the true story behind the scenes… But whatever since they have broken up already so they both have to move on… The past is the past…
I am definitely not against interracial dating and marriages. However, I personally find it easier dating someone who is asian/chinese because we have similar backgrounds and culture… an added plus is that he can communicate well w/ my parents.
I guess that’s the common needs that most parents want from their son in law. – To be able to communicate
I can understand what you are saying Judy, however, when you fall in love, all of that other stuff becomes secondary. Also, being able to communicate is not always a good thing. I have seen that in my family… There are times that it is better to not be able to communicate with your in laws.
“I can understand what you are saying Judy, however, when you fall in love, all of that other stuff becomes secondary.”
That’s not necessarily true, especially for adults. Maybe for teenagers, it’s a bit different.
” Also, being able to communicate is not always a good thing.”
Wow, first time I heard this. How can communicating not be a good thing? It allows both parties to be understand each other’s likes and dislikes, compatibility terms, etc. Sometimes, it seems more more couples have communication issues than issues from over-communicating.
communicate with your “in-laws” and not your partner…
@Chriselle,
I did not mean to say that that was always true, but it is true that when you are in love, your reasoning and many other things just get all clouded and blind.I have always believed that you should never ever allow race/nationality to get in the way when you love or want to date or marry anyone. I just consider that being racist and prejudice. Not communicating can be a good thing.. I can tell you that in my family, one of my sister in laws can’t communicate with my mom at all but it is a good thing or else rumours and all would spread. My other sister in law constantly talks to my mom about everything and causes a lot of problems in my family…I know that that is just one example but the point is that communicating is not always a good thing when talking to the in laws. Of course, you would need to communicate with your partner because you married him/her, not your in laws.
Lol. In that case, your in-laws, are gossiping, spreading rumors. Guess you can say communicating is a bad thing. 😉
Communicate is a good thing. It take communication, patience, and trust to maintain a marriage.
Me and my husband when there things bothering us, or when there is a problem, small or big, we both sit down and talk it through, and find a way to solve it. Ofcourse in marriage, we need compromise, but without communication, our marriage would not last. When we in school and dating, if we did not communicate, no way we can undertand each others.
When they were dating, Jessica claimed they had the same values and that’s why their relationship was going well. Can’t believe she said the differently now.
It’s easy to understand, when you fall in love at first, that means you think you and your partner have the same values, but when you’ve lived with him/her for a long time, you will see the differences. Many wives/hunsbands who have lived together for a long time, aslo say the same things when they break up.
You never truly know anyone until you actually “live” with them and spend a lot of time with them… I think that’s when you know whether it is possible to spend a lifetime together or not.
So sad to hear that her and Ruan have ended their relationship.
So strange for the media to always think there’s a third party involved. Like Jessica would be as stupid as Shirley Yeung to admit something like that.