28-year-old Judy Kwong (鄺潔楹) is charismatic and friendly, but contrary to popular belief, she’s only been through four relationships. Judy dislikes casual dating. All of her relationships—including her very first one at 16 years old—have all lasted over a year.
But not all of them ended in a good note, and her first relationship was by far the worst one.
“My boyfriend at the time was cheating on me with my best friend,” she recalled. “I remember crying a lot. I remember being depressive. I was already thinking about revenge the first night I found out.”
Judy called up her boyfriend’s friend and confided her frustrations to him, even telling him about how she was cheated on. She was able to engage the friend’s sympathy, and he started calling her every day to check on her.
“I wanted him to like me so I can use that for my revenge,” said Judy. “And it worked. He liked me! My boyfriend found out about it and asked me why I did it. I remember saying something pretty dramatic; the kind that you would only hear in TV dramas. I told him that now he was able to finally understand how I felt!”
Asking if she, too, fell in love with her boyfriend’s friend, she said, “No! I ended up leaving for America without really giving him a reason. He probably really hates me now. (Why didn’t you explain what was going on?) I didn’t have that courage. I’ve been told that he is married now, which is great. (What about your boyfriend and your friend?) They broke up. I knew they wouldn’t last long. We met up again after a long time and he told me he was regretful.”
Despite having experienced a few hurtful breakups, Judy said she still fantasizes about a fairytale romance. Currently dating a non-celebrity who is one year older, Judy said she hopes to be able to connect with him more. “Although we’ve been talking for two years, it’s been really hard to progress to the next step. It’s my fault! I was always out of town for work last year. There was a period of time when he actually thought I wasn’t interested in him because I kept finding excuses to not go out with him. We ended things, but when we came across each other again, we decided to start over. I wouldn’t say we are together at the moment, because I wanted to make sure that he really wants me, but I’m not going to ask him that first. (Not afraid that he will leave you again?) My mother said the same thing, but if he does end up leaving, then that won’t be true love!”
Unlike her father, Judy’s mother has always been desperate to get her married. “Before I even turned 25 my mother was already telling me about how I wasn’t getting any younger. She got me a date, but it was awkward because his parents were also there. In the end, I couldn’t deal with the stress and cried in the bathroom. That really scared my mother, so she stopped doing them.”
This article is written by Addy for JayneStars.com.