Kevin Cheng Gives Latest Update on His Son, Rafael

Kevin Cheng (鄭嘉穎) made his first public appearance since becoming a father last month. Appearing at an event today, Kevin spoke about wife Grace Chan‘s (陳凱琳) delivery process and gave the latest update on his three-week-old son, Rafael.

With Grace delivering via Cesarean section, the delivery went very smoothly. Kevin said, “The experience was both exciting and relaxing. The anesthesiologist was Malaysian and he played soft music in the background, making me really relaxed. I just didn’t how to cut the umbilical cord – it turns out that you need to use a lot of force to cut it. My eyes were watery when I witnessed the moment when the baby was born. Grace and I are very happy that the baby is healthy.”

On whether Baby Rafael looks more like him or Grace, Kevin said he is starting to resemble his wife more as the days go by. Calling Rafael his “Little King,” Kevin disclosed that his son once had to change diapers 17 times in a day.

While it’s normal for women to stay at home and rest their bodies for a month postpartum, Grace was already back at work two weeks after giving birth. When asked if Grace was being a “little disobedient” in this case, Kevin said he respects her decision. “I’ve already told her my opinions on how important it is to take care of her health this month. However, I think that mutual respect is important between married couples. My father-in-law did previously advise that I should make big decision and my wife should make the small decisions. However, in reality – whether the decisions are big or small – she’s the one who makes them.”


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  1. Wow! It’s amaaaazing how his body bounced back after having a baby. ; )

    Seriously though, he sounds very happy. He is a cute dad and good husband.

    Grace’s dad, on the hand, with just that one comment, sounds authoritarian and has macho man syndrome. It gives insight into why she believes in gender roles and constantly seems to seek approval.

    1. @potatochip
      Im surprised that Kevin really appreciates his father in law’s advice since they are both similar age so his father in law may not necessarily has more life experience than Kevin. Maybe Kevin can play tennis with his father in law. Similar age so should be similar fitness. No one has a real advantage…

  2. ‘However, in reality – whether the decisions are big or small – she’s the one who makes them.”
    it’s not surprising.
    even baby’s chinese name was decided by her parents.
    ‘While it’s normal for women to stay at home and rest their bodies for a month postpartum, Grace was already back at work two weeks after giving birth.’
    it’s her body and health. if she wants to run out after 2 weeks, then she has to bear responsibility if she suffers later.

  3. March 5, 2019 at 10:45 pm
    Ruco is a traditional man hmmm…. doubtful. Christian ladies like Grace Chan, not sure about Phoebe Sin whether she is one. This hypocrite Ruco Chan and Kevin Cheng all have shotgun wedding like their wife gave birth 5 months or 6 months after marriage!

    1. @tmbern ruco is traditional…but his marriage is shotgun. Aaron Kwok also has a shotgun marriage. Leon lai married his girlfriend after she gave birth.

      1. @janet72
        Ruco is so traditional that he had sex before marriage, had Phoebe carrying a baby and said they always knew that they were marriage partners anyway then announced his wedding on Big Big Channel and had his wedding day broadcasted live…..

      2. @janet72 nonsense, if he’s traditional he wouldn’t make a woman pregnant before marriage. Don’t be fooled by this man. He says one thing but does another. At least Kevin didn’t say anything about being a traditional man kind of nonsense.

    2. @tmbern What is the definition of “traditional” these days and does any man/actor claim virginity before marriage?

      And no, I don’t want to see anyone claim to be a virgin – male or female.

  4. No angry women here moaning why does men have to make the bigger decisions and why women have to make the smaller decisions yet?

    1. @jimmyszeto Your characterization of women asking for equal treatment sounds shrewish. I am a woman and I am not angry or moaning. I just think the views of Grace’s father are outdated and silly. It seems Kevin agrees with me.

      Do you agree with “men should make big decisions and women small ones”?

      1. @potatochip
        I don’t agree nor disagree. I don’t have an opinion on this topic because me and my wife make decisions on different things and don’t really think which decisions are big and which are small. With feminist movement in almost in every thread on this site lately, I was just surprised that his comment wasn’t fully pounced upon early. Women asking for equal treatment isn’t wrong but some of the requests on certain threads have been ridiculous lately. Example. Why can’t Kevin play tennis with his daughter? Where’s the men celeb top 10 most hated list?. I mean seriously if I was eating a sandwich, should my wife request to eat an identical one too to maintain equal rights? That’s how petty some of the comments have been here.

      2. @jimmyszeto I think his statement is problematic because it implies that women can’t make big decisions and therefore are inferior in their judgement.

        Lol, I was one of the ones saying, “Why can’t Kevin play tennis with his daughter” and “Is there top 10 male hated list”. It’s hard to interpret tone with the internet, but when I say these things, please don’t imagine a raging female shaking her fists and banging the keyboard. My tone is casual and thoughtful. These are questions to examine our implicit biases.

        For the tennis question, it shows Grace has thoughts about gender roles and how boys do this and girls do that. It’s a negative way of thinking because it restricts children and also subconsciously implies that girls are not equal to boys. She doesn’t realize this, but she is silently telling her boy that he is superior to girls or her future daughter that she is not worth as much as a boy.

        I don’t think Grace is a bad person for having these thoughts, but it shows how she was ingrained with them. Her father’s statement gives a picture of how she was raised and does not surprise me.

        I hope that if anyone were to ask her this question, instead of being defensive or minimizing the concern, she can take a step back and examine her biases and think deeply about why she thinks Kevin can’t play tennis with a girl. She needs to think about how she was raised and reflect the good and bad attributes and do better for her children.

        For the “most hated female list”, it is a valid question about why there isn’t a male one. No matter how successful a woman becomes, there is always someone trying to put her down for being too ambitious, not being approachable, or not being that beautiful. She is held to a higher standard of having to be the perfect actress, perfect wife, perfect mother, and perfect role model. She has to do all of this and be non-threatening, can’t be too pretty or too successful. And if she makes a mistake, she is demonized more than a man who makes the same mistake. You may disagree with this, but I am telling you that from the female perspective, this is what I have experienced.

        On the other hand, does anyone care if a man is likable? Why is that women need to be likable? Why does she have to please anyone? Do men feel this same pressure to make people happy? I am thinking no.

        This list keeps emphasizing the false perception that women must strive to be likable or else she is worthless. It’s not all about the wealthy actresses on this list, but about the little teen girls and women reading it. They need to be able to have self-confidence and strive to be successful without worrying about having to please men and society. And no, it isn’t all men ranking these “despicable” women, women are doing it to each other. In order to be likable, women think they have to put each other down. All this is a bad cycle and needs to end.

        It’s not petty. It isn’t the same as a sandwich. It is about seeing another perspective, one that we may not experience ourselves and see why these negative views are rooted in subconscious biases and how we can improve for the sake of our children and society.

      3. @potatochip
        I have a hated actors list and a hated actress list. I don’t think we need really look too much into smaller things. There might be a men’s list posted but not covered by Jaynestars or maybe there will be another released next week. It’s impossible for everything to be perfectly equal. It’s normal for a male to choose to play another Male in tennis. Same with women play women. If I went for a game of tennis so far everytime I’ve played with a make. There’s nothing wrong with Kevin saying if he has a son, he wants to play tennis with him. There are lots of women priveleges I want get and advantages I have that women won’t receive. We need to learn to accept or compromise in certain situations. Plenty of mothers say they want a daughter so can put make up on them and do there hair. I don’t go around asking why can’t I do her hair or put make up on her as a dad, do I?

      4. @potatochip
        I think men have to strive to be likeable too to gain success in the entertainment industry. If a men’s list appears there will also be plenty of unreasonable opinions on why they are really hated too and there will be pressure to remove that perception of them from the public. Different perceptions will always be there. There will be perceptions of women as useless housewives by traditional men. There will be perceptions of men as drunk womanisers by some women. We will just have to live with these different perceptions and it will improve. People have become much less narrow minded in the past few decades and it should continue to improve….

      5. @jimmyszeto Honestly, I can’t think of an advantage that I have as a woman. I even asked around. I can’t be drafted in a war but since Viet Nam, we haven’t needed to get to that point. But woman can serve in the military. Women have slightly longer life spans, but during those years, we are underpaid for equal work, at risk for assault, not believed when we actually speak up about it. If I am in pain and go to the hospital, they would think I am hysterical or anxious before looking at other sources. I work full time, make more money than my husband, but am actually expected to take on more household and child rearing duties. And this is just the tip of the iceberg. Curious, what advantages do I have that you would like?

        I agree with you that male entertainers try to be liked at the beginning of their careers. But when they become popular or recognized for good acting, they don’t really focus on that anymore. Ruco tries to be liked, but that has backfired on him now. I think he is still insecure after years of obscurity. Kevin does not care now. Kenneth is just liked, but I don’t think he tries. When female actors get popular or recognized, they get dinged for “likability”. Does anyone ever comment on whether Andy Lau or Tony Leung or Anthony needing to be likable?

        Yes, different negative perceptions and stereo types will exist. Women as weak housewives is different than men as drunk womanizers. The first keeps women oppressed, the second excuses men to keep them in power. I think in order to improve, we have to reflect on them, call them out, and consciously fight them. People, including myself, are going to be uncomfortable when their long held subconscious views are identified and corrected. I just hope that we all can see those areas for improvements not as attacks, but ways to improve society and equality.

      6. @potatochip i just wanna say i SO agree with you in regards to your experience here: “I work full time, make more money than my husband, but am actually expected to take on more household and child rearing duties.” this is just one aspect which i think men has it way easier than women. and what’s worse is that our own fellow women expect the same of us. it’s really unfair.

        oh and they’re actually going to approve drafting women now lol. the occasion hasn’t come up yet where they need to draft anyone, but when they do, women are no longer exempt. so there goes our war-advantage.

        with that said, though, i think women do have certain benefits that men don’t have. and the men will always make us acknowledge it. for example, in terms of dating, women aren’t expected to make the first move. women also anticipate men being the financial provider more often than not (though, like yourself, that is changing rapidly.) women also expect men to be physical protectors. in case of divorce & child custody, men also have a disadvantage. men also die earlier. but, apart from those issues, being a man is far easier than being a woman.

      7. @coralie Yep. I didn’t think about divorce. Women do tend to get custody more often and possibly alimony, but that is also changing. I have a friend who’s ex-husband sexually assault their children but was never charged because he is a respected professional. These were teenagers who independently corroborated each other’s stories of abuse. Despite this, the courts is giving him more equal custody of the child he didn’t abuse. She also made more money than him and paid for the mortgage and cars, but he gets half of everything.

        And in divorce, it is much easier for a man with children to remarry than a woman with children.

        I don’t think it is an advantage for women not to be expected to make the first move in dating. It limits their choices. It puts them in the inferior position having to wait. If a woman dares ask, she is thought to be too aggressive or even have loose moral values. And when asked, she is expected to say yes, and if she refuses, she is thought to be mean. People say, “why don’t you give him a chance?”. Or tell the boy, “keep asking”. Well, her wishes should be respected if she says no.

        I agree that men are expected to be physical protectors. But on the flip side, that means women are expected to need protection. We have couple more years of life than men, but are those years really worth the negative trade offs?

      8. @potatochip The justice system tends to be easier on women when it comes to divorce & spousal support (unless they’re in community property state.) In those states, properties & assets are split right in the middle and there’s no bias towards either gender. But for other states, where that’s not true, women usually end up with more.

        I do find those cases you mentioned disturbing though. Did she have evidence, aside from her kids’ testimonies?

        That’s true about remarrying. Men have it a lot easier. Women with kids don’t have as many options.

        Well, men are expected to make the first move, but there are apps in place now where women can take the initiative instead. I’m just saying those are the pre-requisites set on men, not women. And it is unfair. It’s disadvantageous to both men and women.

        Men want and need protection, too, but they don’t voice it because it makes them look weak. I mean, that burden of being the stronger partner makes it very difficult for men to be vulnerable. Because they’re expected to be strong. Like when men experience physical abuse by their spouse, not many report it.

      9. @coralie In my friend’s case there is only the children’s testimony. As you know, in most sexual abuse cases, the body heals quickly and there are no signs. I find the testimonies very credible because these were thriving teenagers (a girl and a boy) who spiraled into depression and self-harm after the long-standing abuse was finally disclosed.

        I client told me that her sister wanted to divorce her husband but because they had children and were in a certain State, she could not divorce him without his agreement. I don’t know if that is true, would you happen to have heard of such a thing? I find that crazy that you need both parties to agree to a divorce. Perhaps the terms of the divorce, but once someone says a marriage is over, it should be over.

        Disclosing abuse is very difficult and I agree that it is much harder for a man to report it. But I think once he does, he is more likely to believed than a woman.

        I also agree that we should allow our men to be vulnerable and not suffer society’s toxic masculinity..

      10. @potatochip From what I’m aware, there shouldn’t be any state in the US in which one party isn’t allowed to petition for divorce. Even if one party doesn’t agree, as long as the petitioner requests to continue, the court will still approve the divorce proceedings. You client’s sister sounds like she might be misinformed. She should reach out to a lawyer, maybe even someone pro-bono if she can’t afford it.

        And in cases where child abuse is suspected, I thought courts would verify if the children want to be with the accused parent? She should’ve appealed and fought this aggressively if this is what happened.

      11. @coralie
        I don’t think who brings in the highest sum of money is so important if a couple are willing to commit to each other. That’s also a pressure for us men because we are expected to bring in more money by elders, women and sometimes even the wife. When we don’t we get badly looked down upon when in reality the lower pay does not mean we don’t work just has hard. It’s the occupation that pays and not our effort. I agree that women are expected to do more housework but men are more and more willing to help out more in recent years. Men such as myself provide surprise meals and wash up afterwards while some women don’t even grow up learning to cook. Women making the first move is also very normal now especially in the west and even the Chinese girls in major cities are very open in seeking and approaching handsome or rich guys. There has been a big shift but it can’t all happen overnight…

      12. @jimmyszeto there are biases towards both genders that are slowly changing…but at this point in time, men still have it better. i mean, for goodness sake, some women don’t even have the right to control their bodies (abortions.) therefore, as long as systemic sexism exist, injustices & inequalities should be addressed.

        but i’m not offended by grace’s dad’s comments. i prefer both parties make decisions together, but sometimes it’s a blessing to not have that burden. i think her dad was just looking out for her and wanting to ensure that the hardship & fallout from making huge decisions doesn’t land on her shoulders.

      13. @coralie
        Both Kevin’s and his father in law are near or around the 50 year old region. We have to let them off since they have been living in many decades where it was very traditional Chinese lifestyle…

      14. @potatochip grace’s father is outdated. his mindset is ridiculous. if he is old fashioned, then the naming of the baby should be kevin’s mother.

        what is the meaning of big and small decisions?
        hubby and I discuss everything…buying a car, a flat, fridge etc. but of course things like buying shoes or clothes is too small to bother him.

  5. The only time where I heard a friend anxious to return to work, was due to the competiveness of their workplace – or minimal to no maternity leave. I’m surprised she did not choose the opportunity to bond more with her newborn.
    As for decisions in the household, I believe in granting it to the partner who holds the greater knowledge in that area. If one partner excels in budgeting, let them manage the finances – regardless if it’s the husband or wife.

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