Leanne Li: “How I Fell In Love With Wong Cho Lam”
Leanne Li’s (李亞男) popularity rose after her romance with Wong Cho Lam (王祖藍) was revealed in 2010, peaking higher than even when she won the Miss Chinese International Pageant in 2005! Leanne admitted that she was interested in Cho Lam 6 years ago. However, to fulfill a promise towards TVB, she cut-off their relationship. After the couple reconciled their relationship, Leanne felt that true love was invaluable and did not deny that she possessed marriage intentions. Over the next 5 days, Leanne will speak about her circle of friends in the entertainment industry, as well as being compared to Fala Chen (陳法拉) often.
Leanne revealed, “Cho Lam helped me a lot in my career. Our romantic fate also stemmed from an exchange in teaching and learning. Many years ago, I sang the song, Red Bean <紅豆>, upon which I asked my singing instructor for advice. Surprisingly, she told me to ask Wong Cho Lam for advice. It turned out that my instructor sensed that Cho Lam was interested in me. I did not realize this at the time, wondering, ‘Why did I have to bring the demo tape to Cho Lam among all people?’
“After listening to the tape, Cho Lam advised me to take singing lessons, while teaching me Cantonese and [ how to read scripts]. He is 5 years older than me. At the time, I treated him as an elder brother, while admiring his kindness to take time to teach other people. However, I did not have any feelings of love at the time, as I felt that our physiques were incompatible.”
Love Sparks in Disneyland
“One day, Cho Lam asked me out one-on-one to Disneyland. Silly me; I did not know it was a date, but I had a good impression towards him. We had a wonderful time in Disneyland. While on the Buzz Lightyear ride, I felt him clasping my hand. I thought to myself, ‘Something is not right!’ However, I was not offended. We decided to let our feelings run their natural course. After the second and third dates where I felt things were okay, I agreed to start dating.
“After some time together, I worried that I was dating Cho Lam because of loneliness and that I did not truly love him. Afraid of hurting each other, we agreed to pray for 40 days, in which we would not call each other or meet in person. We could only write down our daily thoughts, in which we would exchange our journals to read at the end of the 40 day period. On the first day of the diary, I cried non-stop while writing the entry; I really missed him! On the 35th day, I could not stand it anymore!
“I sought a counselor to discuss the matter; she felt that I can start a relationship with Cho Lam, but I nevertheless gave up the opportunity. I had promised TVB that I would not date and promised my family that I would prioritize my career first. If were to start dating immediately after entering the industry, it is as if I am here to date more than work. I will never forgive myself. At the time, I cried while asking to break up, which made Cho Lam very sad.”
Leanne Li’s Profile
Currently 27 years old, Leanne Li was born in Shanghai. Leanne won the 2004 Miss Chinese Vancouver Pageant and the 2005 Miss Chinese International Pageant. Subsequently, Leanne signed a TVB management company, appearing in numerous series such as The Other Truth <真相>, Burning Flame 3 <烈火雄心3>, etc. In 2010, when the 5-feet-9-inch Leanne revealed that she was dating 5-feet-4-inch Wong Cho Lam, the romance was dubbed as “Long Leg, Short Leg Love.”
Source: Oriental Daily
Jayne: Due to their physiques, it appeared as if Leanne repeatedly questioned her love for Wong Cho Lam, who comes across as a kind-hearted and attentive boyfriend willing to accommodate his girlfriend’s whims. In the beginning of the relationship, Cho Lam pursued very slowly, allowing Leanne to call the shots of when they started, when they had to keep a journal of their feelings during the 40 days of separation, when to break up and reconcile, etc. All along, he waited for Leanne, to explore her true feelings and come to him patiently.
Leanne probably felt that her looks were too good for Cho Lam in the beginning. However, she allowed them the opportunity to develop, which is quite brave. However, I thought the 40 days of separation was quite silly. First of all, she already had feelings for him at that point, of course she would miss him upon separation. Also, 40 days is not long enough to truly test one’s feelings. But their true break-up likely told her that their love was something special not to be missed again.
When you are in a relationship where people constantly tell you, “You can do better, find a better partner,” it can be quite discouraging. Especially if your employer says the same thing. Leanne is brave to love Cho Lam amidst the initial disapproval.