The actress does not regret her “virgin talk” nine years ago.
Known for her candid and forthright personality, Grace Wong (王君馨) has boldly expressed her stand against pre-marital intimacy in 2012. At a time when Hong Kong artistes were reluctant to talk about sex-related issues, Grace’s revelation that she was a virgin and intended to remain so until marriage was quite shocking.
Wanted to Present a “Gift” to Her Husband
“I want to tell everyone, whether they are virgins [or not], to not feel you are an odd one out, for it is a phase and also a decision. I don’t think having many sexual relationships makes you cool or experienced,” Grace said. “My decision back then was, I really want to wait until I find my husband to…preserve this gift for him.”
Temptations Don’t End After Marriage
Marrying Chinese-American non-celebrity Daniel Chang in 2017, Grace acknowledges that her husband is an unromantic person. Ironically, she finds it a strength that he has an uncomplicated personality and does not know how to sugar coat things. “He is a sweet, passive, introverted and very shy person,” said Grace. “I don’t have to worry day in and out about him having anything to do with other [women], and feel totally secure about him!”
The toughest part of their romance was their 12-year long-distance dating relationship. “Because we met only once or twice a year, it was hard to build trust and chemistry,” recalled Grace, who has admitted to being attracted to her co-star. However, that experience turned out to be a blessing as it allowed them to develop a stronger, instinctive trust, leading them to confide their respective issues in each other truthfully now.
Sharing about temptations in a marriage, Grace surmised, “I feel that temptations don’t lessen after marriage…as each of us will have different experiences, and with it comes growth and change.”
Fortunately, Grace and Daniel communicate honestly, and are quick to forgive one another’s faults. “The bond between us is strong. However harsh our tone was, or if we said something we shouldn’t have, we would forgive each other as quickly.”
While many people see the constraints of marriage as being unable to make any decisions freely without considering the impact on the family, Grace felt that the opposite is true, as marriage has emboldened her to chase her dream of becoming a singer. “If I were not married, I would be more nervous about what others think of me.” Now, the 34 year-old is more confident and less bothered, and has also reached a consensus with her husband to delay babymaking plans to prioritize her music career first.
This article is written by JoyceK for JayneStars.com.