Nicholas Tse Issues Statement Over Marriage Crisis
On June 24th, Nicholas Tse (謝霆鋒)issued a written statement to the media regarding recent rumors over his marriage crisis with Cecilia Cheung (張栢芝). Nic indicated that after careful consideration, he made a painful decision to settle family matters and hoped that public speculation will cease. He expressed deep gratitude to his wife, Cecilia Cheung, for her sacrifices over the last five years and sent his heartfelt wishes.
Below is Nicholas Tse’s full-length statement:
In recent months, the media had different reports and speculation regarding my family and marriage. Due to my priority in protecting my family and hoping to reduce impact on my family and two sons, I, Nicholas Tse, remained silent. After repeated careful consideration, I finally made a painful decision. From today onwards, I will settle my family situation and hope that outside speculation will cease, allowing my family to lead a quiet life. I hope that my sons can grow up healthily and happily.
Recently the media has been running around for interviews regarding my family situation. I want to take the opportunity to thank the media and the public interest, as well as my friends and fans who have offered their support all along. I apologize to my family, friends, and involved parties who may have been hurt and disturbed by the situation.
For the time being, I will no longer respond to questions regarding my marriage and family matters to avoid further hurting my family. I hope everyone will understand and tolerate my silence, allowing me to resolve family matters as quickly as possible and concentrate on work.
Finally, I deeply thank Cecilia Cheung for her sacrifices over the last five years and send her my heartfelt wishes.
Nicholas Tse
June 24, 2011
Source: On.cc
Jayne: The contents of Nic’s statement seems to indicate he has decided on divorce, referring to it as a “painful decision” and finally thanking Cecilia Cheung for her efforts in the last 5 years of marriage. Their marriage is over, but the war just began….
Read that she slagged him to a reporter on one of the other blogs. I’m no admirer of Nicholas but what’s happened to him is just wrong.
He had to voice out because Cecilia just come out of hiding spoke bad things about him to the press
I’m really surprised to read Cecilia’s interview and now I don’t know who to believe anymore. Maybe both sides can’t be trusted
I think both sides are immature little kids in handling this relationship that went wrong. By saying it is a painful decision and thanking his wife makes the general public think he was the one who has sacrificed in this marriage and sympathy points are given to him.
Heck, less than a month back he was the person proclaiming that he loved his wife more than his kids and he was “crowned” best man of the century.
Why should he issue a statement only after Cecilia airs the dirty laundry? If a man wants to protect his family, why would he let these untrue reports be published day after day for almost a month?
Why is he thanking his wife after she told him to stop pretending to be a good man? Both of them should cut their act, hold a press conference, give blessings to each other and just get on with the divorce. Period.
After what Cecilia said published, it’s obvious that Nic and his management will issue a counterattack and his camp counter attack is by making him stay the gentleman way. Thanking his wife, and apologizing to everyone and this will make Cecilia look like the rude side.
I agree with you, Nic and Cecilia look like immature little kids right now.
I have to agree with you. He kept silent all these while when his wife was vilified by the media. Only now when his wife aired the dirty laundry in public, he release a statement.
But, I’ll still give him the benefit of the doubt. He did remain silent too when reports said he’s having an affair outside.
I guess my hope is totally shattered now. Amidst all the bad rumours, I’ve always hope that they will reconcile.
Kidd,
I’ll post more of my assessment on Cecilia and Nic’s divorce situation in more detail later. If we were to believe the reasons behind Nic Tse’s divorce decision (as published by Ming Pao), it sounds like Nic is angered by Cecilia’s behavior in the marriage as well. Perhaps under the suggestion of EEG, they decided to release a public statement. The statement did not truly deny Cecilia’s accusations that he was an irresponsible father, but only admitted that he made a painful decision.
From the sound of things, Nic did not finalize his divorce decision until June 24th. The statement not only addresses the media but is also a statement to Cecilia to let her know that things are over. In Cecilia’s interview yesterday, she seemed uncertain as to whether divorce will occur or not.
I am saddened by the divorce news and their marital problems became so public and ugly, making it harder to even turn things back. However, through the recent turn of events, Nic and Cecilia seem to not have a very effective means of communication in their marriage.
I read some articles abt him wanting to release an official statement on this matter Next Weekend(this weekend) hence it’s nothing to do abt counter-attacking his wife interview at all.
I agree with Melody. It’s quite suspicious for Nic to release this statement only after Cecilia’s interview. I always had a feeling that Nic was using Cecilia’s scandal to build up a good husband image, and his latest action has confirmed my belief.
This statement only confirms he’s a total jacka*s. I never liked him because I always felt he was using people to get to a certain point in his career. Nicholas knew if he keep dishing out negative reports about his wife then she’ll eventually respond which in return he’ll make a statement that will make him look like the more mature and saintly husband. Obviously, the one who’s mostly focus on the kids is Cecilia so if they do divorce hopefully she’s awarded full custody. Nicholas main goal is to maintain his image in the entertainment industry which quite sad for his children.
I always had my doubts about Nic ever since the triangle relationship.
I don’t think that is made him a jackas*. I mean, look at what Cecilia said… IF that interview of hers IS true, that makes her even worse. But then again, who knows what is fact and what is fiction. I heard that Nic did a lot of charity work for kids before becoming a father. IF he did not like kids, then why get married and have his own?? Also, IF Cecilia is so into the kids then why did she return to the circle to make money?? Anyways, no one knows the whole truth except for them so we can only guess and speculate.
@HTS: Do you see a fact that all the time, Ceci is with 2 sons. I saw a pic where Ceci hold Quintus in her arms and Nic stood next to her, free, didn’t carry a thing. Why he dun help his wife to carry his son? Just mean he dun even bother.
Charity functions to kids is different to love kids and being father. He doesn’t need to live with the kids he did charity functions more than 3-4h, max a day. His kids are different as he has to live with them, feed them, care for them. When they cry, sick, angry, disobedient etc., the father might feel the kids are annoying.
@Fox,
Well I have not seen them together much since I am not a big fan of either of them. Just because he doesn’t carry something for her a few times does not mean that it is always like that. If it is always like that, then I can understand. But like I have said, I am not a fan of either of them so why should I follow their news. I am also SICK of this whole thing and hope that the news will all die down soon since there are way more other more interesting news to read and discuss..
I think we can at least infer that he hasn’t been speaking to her. From the “I express my deepest gratitude to her.”
Poor children. I hope they get something worked out for them at least.
And I agree with Cloud. It does seem to lean towards what Cecilia said in the interview.
“Finally, I deeply thank Cecilia Cheung for her sacrifices over the last five years and send her my heartfelt wishes.”
That statement sounds so distant and “cold”, not something a husband would say to a wife unless the relationship is really over, he has not or does not want to talk to her again.
Joan,
I think Nic is also angered by Cecilia’s accusations. The actual statement was likely written by his EEG manager, Mani Fok, and Nic likely approved it prior to release. I agree with the statement’s clarity that the marriage is over, but I wouldn’t analyze the tone too much.
Cecilia’s accusations too might be worded exaggeratedly by the presss? Some of what she said sounds like it’s taken straight out of a TV drama and yes the marriage is over.
Which amounts to saying nothing. Nic, don’t express too much gratitude for her sacrifices if you intend to fight for custody because those statements won’t help!
If he does win the custody over his children, will he have time to take care of them? Or, is he just going to let the maids look after them?
since cecilia saying things in this interview and think she really lay things on the table and there is no turning point to thier marriage. i don’t totally believe what cecilia siad. things can turns to very ugly when it comes to divorce. Why not they behave just like Charlene and Roland? Or Kenix & Kwok and Frankie Lam? When they have marriage problems they just hold a press conference.. make a joint statement and just divorce/or moving on.. nic & cecilia only make things very ugly for thier kids… sigh…
Because they are both immature people. Nic’s side, particularly Cha Siu Yan, should’ve never revealed anything to the public in the first place–it only made things worse for the couple.
I also agree that Nic and Ceclia did not handle this divorce rumor tactfully and maturely. Instead of getting so many third parties involved, and all the rumors and hearsay that has come out from this news, they should have just come out together in the first place to clarify things. This whole “want to protect my family” thing is BS now. The media has disturbed their family and friends, trying to dig out information from them. And the most innocent of them are their 2 sons. The fact that neither have come out to talk directly to the media and the fact that they didn’t come out together to clarify things, show that their relationship has gone rock bottom that they probably can’t even talk to each other and appear together. I’m sure they are both at fault for this divorce, not just Cecilia. The reason why Nic gets the benefit of the doubt is because of his “good husband” image that he has portrayed ever since Cecilia’s scandal with Edison broke out a few years ago. But as I have mentioned before, it could simply be for his image and for the face and reputation of the Tse family. If they really lasted, it would have been a positive ending for one of the biggest scandals in the entertainment industry. That’s really sad.
Aly,
If the media’s quotes were to be trusted, both Nic and Cecilia sound contemptous and angry towards each other. He doesn’t seem to wish to talk or see her given his current feelings about her. The phone call that occurred between Cecilia, Nic’s cousin, and Nic in the background indicated that even in a brief exchange, they had to attack at each other’s throats. This divorce seems to be made in anger. Both their judgement are not at their best now, but they probably have an overwhelming sense of “I can’t stand this person anymore!”
Nic is so cold and he can even not talk to his wife for almost one month, excuse he wants to concentrate on his work. Marriage needs communication. Whatever it is they need to talk things over and I still hope they can reconcile for those lovely children. Give one another a chance especially whom you have loved. Nothing worst cannot be resolved. When there is a will there is a way.
Cindy,
If past reports, such as Ming Pao’s article, were to be trusted, Nic may have felt that Cecilia was beyond reason. Allegedly, her lawyer initiated contact with Nic’s lawyer regarding a divorce request first. He may have wanted to think matters over quietly himself. He was likely replaying their marriage over the last few years and thinking can he continue to stay married to Cecilia? Can he continue to be with such a person, given her previous record of handling certain situations? Is he happy? Will he be happier with or without Cecilia? All very difficult questions and can not be decided immediately.
I do agree that Nic should have tried to discuss above issues with Cecilia instead of shutting her out. This may be an indication of how they may have previously resolved marital arguments: Nic may tend to withdraw while Cecilia attacks. Both very hurtful tactics.
Jayne, thanks for the above info, honestly I really hope they will make up and continue their marriage as i still see nothing is beyond hope. We all have our weakness and strenght, as long we do not focus so much on their weakness, we can move on. Before this sad news. I have read so much of good news about them. In one artcle (from Asiaone website dd 13/4/2011) quoted “Hong Kong celebrity couple Nicholas Tse and Cecilia Cheung look set to be the David and Victoria Beckham of the East.” After reading this I feel so proud of them, young beautiful couple and loving and also love to have more children of their own whereby we see or hear less of celebrity wants to do this. I still hope they will be more forgiving to one another as they have chosen to be husband and wife and to have children.
It’s funny how we become deeply in love with each other and then we turn into enemies.
Darren,
I think it also depends on how you love your lover. The more passionate and consuming a person in love is, the more fierce the rage when parting ways. It makes sense.
@Darren,
Yea, it is a double edged sword, you can love someone the most but you can also hate them the most down the road. I have seen couples that even kill each other in some cases that it is scary. Maybe at times it is better to just be close friends with a person rather than lovers or husband/wife… Once your passion and love all end, you can become the worse of enemies. You know the saying, your former best friends can end up being your worse enemies.
More love, more hate
he is one of a scary man. A lot of thinking going on in his head and i think he is quite smart as well. What cecilia cheung said has some truth to it. Looks like he is playing chess with her. When you read the statement very pretentious and heartless frankly. Not sure probably just my feeling. I found that very odd he always like to wear sunglasses as well, even when walking in the hong ti tan. Feel sad for the kids.
LOL he learned from the best i.e. his parents. Im so sick of this can’t they sort it out in privat. I don’t trust either party all i can say is “poor kids” for having such parents…
rofl at he learned from the parents part
I am actually REALLY sick of reading about this. I really hope that they can work things out in private so that they don’t hurt their kids and family anymore. I don’t know what to believe and what not to believe anymore. IF they must divorce, then I hope that they do so in a civilized manner so that they don’t hurt their kids anymore.
I don’t think that there is any turning back to their marriage anymore since the damage has been done…
ya..thanks to char siu yan big mouth i guess. She’s the one who “bao liao” the very beginning. I still think she shouldn’t do that. As much as they are public figure, marriage problem is a private thing that can only be settle privately.
or thank the one who told CSY…
they need Dr Phil.
I do wonder if Dr. Phil can help them??
Nic and Ceci should really read that ‘Dare Love’ book rei recommended.
Maybe it would help.
As a parent to a 8 months baby myself, I feel for Cecilia but I don’t think Cecilia is 100% right. If the accusations of Cecilia trying to control Nic’s asset and his life is true, I’ll be disgusted with her act. But in the view of a wife and a parent, Nic will never understand the sacrifications of a wife to his kids. The time spent, freedom and etc all use on bringing up the kids as a wife and mother, a father will never be able to understand.
Like what others have said above, it’s best if both to give each other a chance to reconcile or worst case…seek for divorce which I think would be a better solution to cease further destruction for the boys’ future.
In some cases, it is the father that sacrifices even more than the mother does, especially if they both work. In my family, one of my brothers is more committed to his kids while his wife is the one neglects the kids because she is too into herself and is too lazy to care for the kids. I take care of my nephews more when I am around than his own mother does. I think a lot of times the mother gets too much credit while the father doesn’t get any. I feel that it is sad that the father has to sacrifice a lot for his wife and kids and gets no credit for it.
My mom and uncle even wonder why there are so many touching songs for the love of a mother, but there aren’t any for the father. That is just so unfair to the fathers. In many cases these days, it is the father who sacrifices more and takes care of the kids, NOT the mother but the mother always get most of the credit if not all of it. I don’t find that fair at all.
@HTS,
“In my family, one of my brothers is more committed to his kids while his wife is the one neglects the kids because she is too into herself and is too lazy to care for the kids. ”
I think it’s hard to have kids if both parents are not willing to bear the responsibility. If the father is always working, it is understandable that the mother would be left with the kids most of the time. But that shouldn’t be an excuse for the father to not spend any time with his children. I was wondering, why did your sister in-law decide to have children if she was lazy and did not plan on taking care of them?
The fact is: Most of the mother always cares for the kids than the father.
The father dun need to have a baby in tummy for 9 months, so the link of mother and son is always closer than father and son.
You can see that most of the children follow mother more than father. Because they can feel that mother is the closest person for them, when they are unborned. And the milk of the mother is also a link.
When a baby is sick, he/she will ask for mother to stay with them more.
The father, hmm, do you see many men do chores? Nope, they always say it’s work of woman. They have to do great things, chores? For woman.
@Chriselle,
I also wonder the same thing… She also still lives with her parents so they help out as well. One of my friend’s sister in law is even worse. She has kids but does NOT want to take care of them and always throws them onto others. You know how some people are, they just want the good side of things like the title as a “mother” but doesn’t want to do the work for it.
Of course if the father is always working then it is the mother that has to take care of the kids. BUt if they both work, then I think they should share the responsibilities of taking care of the kids just like sharing the housework.
@Fox,
THose are the old days where the men think that the housework is for women to do. That is how we were raised, but my brothers that are married now do a lot of the housework since their wives are lazy.
Times are different now so not everyone thinks like that anymore…
It is true that in a lot of cases, the children follow the mom more, IF the mom is a good mother and takes care of them. But in my family, my nephews love and follow their dad more because their dad is the one that takes care of them while the mom just ignores them.
Everything have exception, HTS, but the proportion. How many men dare to do chores among 1/2 of world population?
Your brother might be an exception, but to see in bigger screen, things are not like that. So if you can find a man like your brother, it’s good but quite rare.
The best is share house works. Family is of both, why one need to do chores and one dun?
But, not many men love to do chores. They think it isn’t manly.
Men earn money, women care for children. Still a very huge amount of ppl in this world think so.
@HTS,
Haha… I was actually wondering if you knew why your sister-in-law decided to have kids, but didn’t assume any responsibility for them. I don’t blame her if she’s a lazy person herself, but she should be more aware of responsibilities of the mother before having children. Unless it’s due to family pressure where mother in-laws force them to have children because they want a son…
@Fox,
Well, what you are saying to true to some extent, but that is more of a traditional way of thinking. Back in the days, the women just stayed home, did housework and took care of the kids. It is still that way in many cases, but that has changed a lot as you know because many more women also work these days. But yea,really traditional people would find it strange if the men did any kind of housework. I remember my aunt who is really traditional get all shocked when she saw my uncle cooking and doing the dishes.
It is rare to find a guy like my 3rd and 4ht brother, but even if I did, I would not treat him that way. I would take care of him more and do what is needed instead of take advantage of him. That is not right nor is it nice.
@Chriselle,
What a good question since I am wondering the same thing… I know that she likes kids and has many nephews and nieces. But it just too lazy to take care of her own son since it is a lot of work. I think that is why she has been married for 10 years and still lives with her parents because they help her with everything. The rest she just throws onto my brother(her husband). She saw how cute my other nephew was and wanted to have her own, but sadly doesn’t want to take care of them. I know quite a number of people like that. They want to have kids, but don’t want to take care of them. Therefore, I wonder why they even have them?? I guess that is one of the reasons why we may have so many unfortunate orphans out there…
It is hard to balance career and family sometimes and I think my sister in law wants both, but cannot handle it so she throws the responsibility onto others. Not everyone can give up career since they need the money…
@HTS: Have a husband then you will know that most of men now still have this thinking, not tradional or not.
Women can work, but work dun mean they are free on chores. Many women still have to do chores after work.
I guess that because your sister-in-law dun do chores then your brother has to do so (if he also dun do, the house will be a mess and maybe he isn’t the type of person that can accept a messy house). I doubt that he wants to do chores.
But that dun mean I’m sure that your brother think so. There are men who love to do chores. They find it’s interesting and new to them.
@Fox,
Yea, I know what you mean and find that so annoying… My mom thinks that guys should not do any household chores since it is a women’s thing to do so. However, she is VERY traditional and lives in the old world, so that is just her way of thinking.
That is how it is in my house and I have suffered through it for many years and still am. I really hope and pray that if I ever get married that my future husband will help out with the housework. I don’t mind doing the bulk of it, but I would still want some help. ONe of my Korean friends says she hates doing housework and hopes that her future husband will help her and that is one of her requirements for a husband. If he doesn’t help her with the housework, then she will not marry him.. Boy, I did not think that helping out with the housework or not is that important.. I guess it can be in some cases…
Before marriage, the men are sweet talk. Even they dun lie, we still can’t understand them as well as after the marriage. True color only revealed after that, lol.
I wish you and your friend luck. However, just prepare yourself and don’t feel shock if wat you want won’t become fact.
if you can stand the dust then it is pretty easy with chores, unless you cook like my mother, dish and containers and pots and pans for everything different and let is pile, dishes are easy, laudry isn’t too bad. Keep the house simple and don’t be too messy or get a maid/housecleaner for every week
@Fox,
Yea, I know that and thanks for reminding me. I have 7 brothers so I honestly understand guys pretty well. I grew up with all guys around me and can tolerate many things that other girls can’t…
I also know not to be too ideal or expect too much from anyone. I think it is best to just be realistic and learn to accept each person’s negative and positive traits.
@Fox,
Was there someone pretending to be you?? There was also another person named “Fox” that did not sound like you at all…
@Kwan,
You are right… I am a neat freak so I always want things clean and organized. All of my brothers are slobs and are very messy… I don’t like it but have to tolerate it since my mom spoils them. If I ever have my own house, I want it simple and clean…. I just can’t function or live in a really messy house…
There was also another person named “Fox” that did not sound like you at all…
Where? What? When? Can give me link to see?
My avatar if say stable then it’s me :P.
7 brothers? Then you must be very lucky (or unlucky, haha).
However, I also want to remind you that husband and brother, the relationship is different. Brother is your sibling. Husband is a “stranger”. And dun forget the family of your husband. You are “stranger” to them.
But dun be worried and dun get married just because of these thing. Life is still flowing.
I wouldn’t consider myself neat and I hardly do chores, I just keep it simple and not be messy and tolerate myself =P unless there really is a big spill or mess (which is rare) I hardly clean and doing dishes right away so they don’t pile keeps the kitchen good. Also depends on your definition of clean but I consider myself better than lots of people after living in a dorm before. I don’t leave stuff around and keep clothes in one spot instead of randomly throwing them around like some of the dormmates did and I had the cleanest room I think =P minus vacuuming once before moving out at the end of the year, nothing visible dirty was seen
@Fox,
Wait maybe it was another person, not you. Sorry I think I remembered wrong… There were some others pretending to Funn and another member too. I thought it happened to you too, but I guess not.
I am not lucky since my parents are sexist and love boys over girls. I have always been treated like a maid… But the good thing that came out of that is I know how to care and take care of others and become more selfless, instead of those spoiled people that become selfish and self centered.
It is true that my brother and husband are different in s sense, but guys are guys.. If I agreed to marry him, then he is no longer a stranger to me but is pretty much like family but of course not like a brother sense. Of course I am not afraid of marriage just because of these things. oh yea, the family of my husband too… The strange thing is, guys that have liked me in the past, when they introduced me to their parents, their parents seemed to like me… But sadly, I never went far with any of them anyways…
His family like you, a matter. His family live with you, another matter.
However, with your experience in the family, you might become a good wife. You are 32, maybe it’s good time to get married.
Wish you a perfect marriage.
@Fox,
Thanks for your good wishes and you are right. I really hope that I don’t have to live with my future husband’s family. Also, I feel that if I am not ready to live on my own, then I just don’t get married because what is the point of that?? But to me, I don’t think that we should think about marriage if we are not ready for it. I believe in fate and I have friends older than me that are unmarried. I have a friend that got married just because she was afraid of her biological clock ticking. She married someone that she hardly even knew and they are ok for now, but I don’t know about the future. I know that most are afraid of not having kids and all, but my mom had my 6th brother, me and my younger brother after 35 and we all turned out fine. Therefore, I don’t want to think about that too much. Also, how can I get married when I don’t even have a boyfriend??? I don’t want to be like my friend who married someone that she hardly even knew or having a shot gun wedding. I don’t mind being single for life if I can’t get married one day. Who said that everyone has to get married??
HeTieShou,
I think meeting the right person requires the right social opportunity, which takes conscious effort. Meeting someone romanticaaly through chance encounters rarely happens in lifetime although movies would try to convince us otherwise.
I pursued my husband and I really advocate that if you meet someone you like, don’t be timid to chance after your interests.
@Jayne,
THanks for your advice and I understand that. I am very friendly and very approachable so many people that don’t even know me in public often approach me. I also look very friendly and smile a lot so I don’t have a problem meeting acquaintances and all… I am not that shy and can be friends with almost anyone.
Some of my older brothers are still single because they don’t even make the effort to meet anyone. I know that meeting people and all takes a lot of work and effort. I have other things on my mind besides just meeting guys though…
Haha… I was going to reply to HTS, but when I landed on the comment page, Jayne stole the words right out of my mouth. 😀
“I believe in fate” is such an overstatement. I’ve heard this statement more times than I wish in TVB serials, but I never understood why people wanted to believe in it. Sometimes, I hear it in real life too and celebrities reply to the media’s questions regarding about their love life as well. It always bothered me when people just let everything flow, sit there and wait for things to happen, instead of being more assertive and going out there and get what they want.
IMO, it’s better to be a balance between those. I don’t think it’s realistic is just sit there and rely on fate. Give yourself a chance, throw yourself out there, talk to other people, and TRY. And if it doesn’t work, then let go, move on, and don’t dwell on it too much. I’ll much rather be the master of my own fate.
@Jayne,
I also wanted to add of course I know that meeting people by chance does not happen often in real life. That is only for the series and movies world. I am more realistic than that and know that things that happen in movies and series doesn’t happen much in real life depending on what it is. I still believe partially in fate but a lot of it is in our own hands too. The sad part for me is that many guys that I sort of liked before all had girlfriends so I of course need to move on.
I really liked a guy when I was 16 but I was way too young and he was only 17. He could have been my first love if we dated but my family of course would not approve since I was too young… But it is the past so I know that it was not meant to be…. Timing is just so important…
@Chriselle,
When I say that I believe in fate, it is different than what others think it means. To me it means, that you do your share of what will happen and the things that happen along with it that is beyond our control is “fate”. I don’t mean that you just sit there and just let things happen. Sorry, but to me that just doesn’t cut it.If you are all just all talk and no play, then nothing will happen… Fate is just a part of it since I have always believed that our destiny is in our hands…. There are things that happen beyond our control as well. However, we do what we can with the things that we can control.
@Chriselle @HeTieShou,
Chance encounters are more exciting dramatic devices and predestined love more romantic to feature in scripts. Have to give them credit for some of the most creative over-the -top chance meetings, especially in some ancient dramas as well.
Being master of own fate certainly opens up more choices in life and allows us to not regret later on.
HTS, whatevr happened in the past happened for a reason and teaches us to cherish opportunities if they were to occur again. No need to have regrets.
@HTS: First of all, being mom the 4th after 36 is different to being mom the first time in this age. Being mom the first time after 36 will be very risky to the mom and the kid. Especially in the modern world now where there are a lot of trouble with the environment and the health system. I think you heard about the proportion of Down syndrome children was born by 36++ mom. The risk is doubled when you give birth to a child in the high age. Not only Down syndrome, there are millions of other risks to the health. That’s why woman should get married and give birth the first time before 36. I bolded the word “should” because it isn’t an order. Up to each person.
Second, no, no rule that woman have to get married. However, single woman after 40 will feel very sad and lonely. If you are the person type that don’t feel afraid of being lonely, then you can accept this life. I know a lot of women who are still single in the age of 35-40. Some told me that they think work eats their time so they can’t feel the lonesome anymore. But when they are sick, they truly understand why they need a family. But after that, they still stay strong and have a life.
You should blv in fate :). Maybe someday you will meet your life partner and live until death do you part.
When I was 18 or 20, I blv that LOVE is the most important thing in a marriage. Now I don’t blv so. Love will die after 3, or at max 6 months. After that, habit and responsibilities. Sometimes in a marriage, the behavior and the way the couple treat each other is more important than love.
@ Jayne: Congrats you! When is your marriage? I send you all the best wishes.
Haha..young adults I believe mostly will think about LOVE first in a relationship..I was the same too back then..but more mature adults of 25+ will think deeper(especially for girls) on what she/he wants.
Mutual trust and tolerance are important too to have a long lasting marriage. In this Nicholas and Cecilia divorce-gate, I have an opinion that they can no longer tolerate each other. Ouch too bad.
@ Fox
“@ Jayne: Congrats you! When is your marriage? I send you all the best wishes.”
I thought Jayne already married?
@Chriselle: You should blv in fate, haha. But when you meet your fate, use your master brain to decide the fate!
@ fox
My friend told me that children born to mom in late 30s and above either will have health problem or very intelligent. If they are not downs syndrome, they usually will be very intelligent.
@Kidd: Re-read Jayne’s message again and yes, haha. So Jayne, my late congratulations to you
@Kidd, Why are children born when mothers are in their late 30s on either side of the extremes? That’s hard to imagine. Many celebrities have children in their late 30s too. Kelly Chen, Kenix Kwok, etc.
@Kidd: I haven’t heard about this but in a 50-50 case like this, I’d rather my children is healthy than super intelligent :P.
My mum gave birth to me when she was 36 and thankfully I’m in good health – both body and mind hehe 😀
@ Chriselle
I don’t know. That’s what my friend said. Maybe she got the conclusion from observation.
@Veejay,
Once again, I agree with what you say but I think that you are a father too so you would know first hand the sacrifices of a father for his kids and wife too. I think many just have a very traditional mind and think that it is the mother that is the homemaker that takes care of the kids while the father works and makes money. That is not the case anymore since many women work these days and then refuse to do anything once you get home including take care of the kids. My sister in law is exactly like that but anytime anyone complains, she always throws out the phrase “I work!”. Hello? Doesn’t your husband work too??? If people can’t live up to the responsibilities, then I don’t think they should have kids period.
I think that they should try to protect their innocent sons as much as possible before it really affects them.
Hi HTS,
Thanks for your sharing your family’s issue with us. I too have a sis-inlaw who doesn’t help much in bringing up her kids. When her 1st and 2nd bb were born, she just sent them to nanny home to be looked after for 24/7 after her 2months consignment. Her reason was that “she can’t stand bb’s cries” but if she can’t stand them crying..why get preggy and give birth in the 1st place?! I really hate her for being such a lazy and irresponsible mom since she’s no longer working now but only sleep at home living on her husband’s (my bro) money and always wake up only after 12noon. She only visit her kids at nanny’s home once in a week…
That’s why it’s important to have a mature thinking before you become a parent yourself because it requires alot of sacrifications which cannot be explained by others.
Hi Veejay,
You are welcome and thanks for sharing your family story with us too. I am so sorry to hear about your sister in law. Even though my sister in law is lazy and very career minded, she isn’t quite that bad. However, it is because she still lives with her parents whom also help her and she has a good husband(my brother) who does like all of the work when it comes to taking care of my nephew. He always calls for his dad and rarely his. IN fact, my nephew is more attached me then his mom. When is around me, I devote most of my attention to him so he loves being around me, but when he is around his mom, she just ignores him so he walks away.
Your sister in law reminds me of my friend’s sister in law. SHe is just as bad if not worse than your sister in law. Sorry to hear that you have someone like that as a sister in law. I really agree that if you cannot make all of the sacrifices and responsibilities as a parent, then just don’t have kids. It is as simple as that.
I am just an aunt and have to sacrifice a lot already since there are times when I need to take care of my nephews, so I can understand the pain of being a parent.
Can’t be more agree w/ you!. Well said! He doesn’t even know what is sacrifice how can he say thank you for things that he doesn’t even know. Sorry getting too emo. Haha.
i think they should separate if they are really unhappy, but by any chance they work it out then it will be the best, now nic look became more mature, and ceci recent actions make her image looks really bad.
Husband has the help of EEG and a big management team which ensure his image is protected at all cost. But what is the real person beneath his perfect image?! None of us know. Look, he is the one who leaks all the terrible information to paint a greedy unreasonable demanding wife (I think the information is so cruel that only someone truely hate the other would say). The reason? so she would give up her entitlement of part of his assets in case of a divorce in HK (under HK law wife may claim assets) in order to keep a good image. Legally she is entitled to half of his assets. When it comes to divorce settlement, couples would do anything to discredit the other party to protect their assets. Imagine what kind of husband would issue a public statement to say good-bye to his wife in such a sarcastic way! It’s so cold, it sends shivers down my spine. The husband is all act! I believe the wife. She has always known to be frank and says whatever is in her mind. She has given up more to marry him and have 2 kids. 5 years of youth in a woman is a lot!! wake up everyone. think again.
I think it is a very cold and callous statement too! Just a few months ago, he said he loved his wife more than his children???? That is quite weird as u can change your wife but not your children, so how can on make such a statement! Now suddenly two months down the line, u seem not to even bother talking to her? I think this guy is either severely depressed or has split personality.
Were them both just pretend to be loving in front of the public in recent times? Then both should get best actor and actress
they are and have…
So, overall, the 5 years marriage of Nic and Ceci is over. Whatever they argue, watever they say about each other, result is just same: A divorce.
Then, like everyone feel, poor the kids.
I agree and it seems like all of this arguing and blaming each other is becoming useless. Sadly, the outcome will be the same, a divorce… Since kids are involved, it makes it hard and sad for the kids.
No one knows the truth except them and no one can lay claim to who is right or wrong. I am sure neither party is a complete angel or monster, so lets all back off and instead pray that they stop slagging each other for their own childrens’sake.
I am no fan of Cecilia nor Nicholas, but during their earlier Edison photo crisis, I have the upmost respect for Nicholas being so supportive.
Only recently, he claimed he love his wife more than his kids, and also while filming in Malaysia, through EEG issue announcement that he is not seeking divorce with his wife.
So fast a U turn and such a cold manner to announce a divorce. All respect for this radical young man is thrown down the drain.
I can feel the pain in Cecilia and the kids. Best for Cecilia is to accept the fact that the marriage has ended and fight custody of the kids and live on. She has shown and proven that she is indeed a good and capable mother. Bless her.
After thinking about it for awhile, I think they both have their faults. However, I don’t think it is good to blame anyone but just settle things in private. I hope that whatever they do that they think of their 2 kids first…
Human make mistake. It doesn’t a matter of who is wrong, who is right because of course they both has faults.
And if they think of the kids, they didn’t make themselves and story on news for days like this. Not only Nic, Ceci but also ppl around them (Nic’s family, friends and Ceci’s friends).
Yea, I think it is just so hard being in the circle….
Probably, this will be the downturn for Nicholas Tse, after spiraling high for some years. He could be just another EKIN Cheng. Not easy to make a come back anymore.
@Kaypoh,
Why do you think that Nic will be like Ekin Cheng?? I think Ekin and Nic has some similarities with their issues, but there are some differences and they are 2 different people. There are many others that have had worser issues in life, however, they were still able to make a successful comeback so I don’t understand why Nic would not be able to.
Nic’s in person response on his marriage problem.
http://big5.xinhuanet.com/gate/big5/news.xinhuanet.com/ent/2011-06/26/c_121585959.htm
And what did he say?
Go check your email. I’ve sent you the youtube video. I don’t want to post it here because the whole video will appear in the ‘recent comment’ page instead of just the link. Use up lots of space.
Llwy12’s translation taken from asianfanatics.
http://asianfanatics.net/forum/topic/753055-nicholas-tse-personally-responds-to-marital-issues-rumors-after-treasure-inn-press-conference/
Kidd,
Thanks for the link. A very well thought out response. I have no doubt Nic and Cecilia love each other. Their fierce arguments are a product of their very intense emotions towards each other.
Nic said they both love and miss each other. I wonder if they have tried marriage counseling? Or both feel that although they love each other, they cannot continue on this road of “incompatibility” and “self-sacrific?” Did they ever think about possibility of being married to other people and how the universal issues of marriage they face may be the same?
If Nic had said that Cecilia and he no longer love each other and both people have been more unhappy than happy and they are ready to move on without each other, then it sounds more conclusive than what Nic said at press conference.
I agree with what you wrote, especially the last paragraph. I also noticed that he still addresses Cecilia as his wife during the press conference.
I also feel that they both still love each other, however, is love the most important thing in a marriage?? I feel that love is one of the most important things that you must have, but I don’t think it is the only thing. Even though they may still love each other, it doesn’t feel like they can tolerate each other, communicate with each other and resolve crisis with each other anymore. I also wonder if marriage counseling would help??? Did they even think of trying that??
The whole statement is inconclusive. He explicitly notes that the two still love each other, but just don’t know how to go on. He still calls her his wife as Cloud pointed out. Even though the response is articulate and clear, it doesn’t seem to point to a conclusive direction for the two.
I don’t think his response is clear… Many portions of it sounded sort of vague and inconclusive. I felt like he said that he loves Cecilia and all and she loves him, but yet they don’t know how to solve their problems and remain married…
The press conference explanation sounds like a stage script. Nicholas is a better actor than Cecilia. His speech painted himself as the good guy and Cecilia is the agressive one. I dun quite trust this guy, actually he is saying – I love Cecilia but I am NOT in love with her. His EEG certainly knows how to construct sentences.
I agree and his statement sounds a bit cold and vague in many areas. It felt like he was beating around the bush as well.. I don’t know what to believe anymore. But I think we all know that they are having martial issues and I think they both have issues with each other. I guess maybe the news about this will die down now unless there is another big twist to it that surprises everyone, like Cecilia is pregnant with the 3rd child for example…
I hope the couple can go to marriage counselling and through the counselling, rediscover the reason why they love each other in the first place. Find out again the quality that attract you to this woman/man and go from it.
It reminds me how some people always adviced quarreling husbands and wives to think back of the other partner’s good and positive sides 😛
I agree with Kidd but I also feel if one wants to leave, the other must learn to let go.
His statement reeks of indecision. After all, he has been married to her for 5years and she is said to be currently pregnant. Divorce is not a minor issue, I’m sure he would have given it alot of thought before proceeding with it or is still somehow undecided when it comes to their marital status.
Love alone is not enough. From the recent interview, one can gauged that there is a lack of respect from his wife, and a lack of trust from Nic. These when coupled together with the said crazy antics of Ceci(threats of suicide etc) would have make most couple have a change of heart.
Also, whether what he said is advised by EEG or not, at the end of the day anyone with half a brain or dignity would have known not to air their dirty laundry in public. So, even if Ceci is saying the truth, she will still be seen as the bad one for bad mouthing Nic in public as per her recent interview. She shd think before she speaks, no matter how angry one is one must still be in-control of their self and situation. Which is of course what Ceci lacks . .
Could it be Ceci did this to force him to return her call?
Who knows…but that’s still not the way to go abt it. All I can garner from their news is that there is a lack of trust from Nic’s part and a lack of respect from Cecilia.
Also, Ceci shd have known better not to erm, cosy up to Edison after all that had happened, not when she’s stillall coupled up. 99% of the time when such a thing happen(as per Cecilia’s photos with Edison) most men be it a bf or husband just can’t help but to have that mental image of you in their head til their last breath! That’s how most men think, hence thats also 1 of the reason why its harder for men to forgive their gf/wife who had done wrong than for a woman to forgive their bf/husband. And to cosy up with that once lover of yours again is bound to cause more doubts in him eventhough when you did nothing at all.
Trust is like a vase, once it’s broken though you can fix it but it’ll never be the same again.
At the end of the day, I think Nic and Cecilia are both immature people and should’nt have had children. People like them should have stayed single in fact. There is an English saying which is “six and half a dozen” and in Cantonese they are definitely “boon gun bak leung” – both were to blame. I just hope that their children lead normal (well as normal as can be) lives and not be pestered by the media when they get older.
is it a necessity, Nic for u to come up with such statements? I honestly do not think such statements are necessary to silent the public speculations. All u need to do is EITHER DIVORCE or APPEAR IN PUBLIC INTIMATELY WITH CECEILIA! thats all! Grow up, Nic!! AND grow up CECEILIA!
Mud-slugging in the public can be avoided and MUST be avoided to protect the healthy upbringing of ur kids (since each claim they love their kids so much!)