Anita Yuen: “I Like to Control My Husband, Chilam Cheung”
Appearing at a promotional event last night, Chilam Cheung (張智霖) mentioned that his son, Morton, started school in August. Asked how he managed to prevent the media from photographing Morton attending school, Chilam smiled and said, “I’m so low-key and the media also spared us. Perhaps there were too many targets the paparazzi was interested in instead!”
Chilam celebrated his wife, Anita Yuen’s (袁詠儀 ) birthday earlier with a large group of friends. Chilam gave Anita her favorite gift, “I gave her a five-figure sum in cash!” (Did Anita feel bashful in accepting the gift?) “She did not act with any reserve! We have too many things at home, so giving cash was the most practical gift.
“On Morton’s birthday, I did not give him any toys either; it’s better to donate to charity instead!” Earlier, when Morton spotted a person with disabilities on the street, Morton wanted to donate money to the person. Chilam praised his son for possessing a charitable spirit.
During a television program interview, Anita Yuen admitted that she was a dominant woman (大女人) and liked to control her husband, as well as make lifestyle arrangements for him.
Source: Oriental Daily
Jayne: Always glad to come across Chilam, Anita and Morton’s news!
Why do I feel their marriage is too practical, that the only thing binding them is Morton? Maybe Chilam is ok with the domineering thing or maybe it is all just talks. WHo knows, maybe at home Chilam is king.
I remember reading a news where reporters ask Anita Yuen about some rumours that her husband ChiLam met some girl in Mainland China. And Anita answer was something like this “If he cheating on her, she hopes that he wear a condom, and as long as he remember to go home, then it fine.”
This answer of her got many people replies and was in shock since she seem like the dominant type of woman, but her answer was weak.
I try go find this news again. For sure I remember reading it, and I agree her answer was kindda weak.
Oh yea, I nearly forgot about that LeilaFan. Thanks for reminding me… But then she also said that if he ever cheated on her that he is deadmeat… So who knows?? However, from what we see, they seem like a happy couple that is able to communicate and resolve their problems… That is very important in a marriage.
I remember her saying both. She also pointed out one crucial point i.e. ‘don’t let me know’.
Now that Kidd brought it up about Anita saying not to let her know, I want to know what you all readers on JayneStars think. If your other half cheated on you, would you rather know or not know because knowing involves being hurt while ignorance is bliss? And giving a reason to support your answer will be greatly appreciated. 🙂
I’m married so I want to answer this question. I rather know. I want to know. Because I don’t want 5-10 years from now there some kid show up saying they are my husband kid with some lady, LOL!! Also, sexual diseases, I prefer know. I don’t want to sleep with my husband knowing he outside engage in sexual activities with another woman. Yes there are condoms, but condoms are not guarantee. At ofcourse for my own dignity, I will get a divorce. He can go off with that woman if he wants. I give him the freedom, if there no more love between us, better off divorce.
This couple is quite cute <3
I always wonder why Chilam always wear funny or weird costumes to a function,his hairdo also doesn’t help,now I know it is because of his wife in control of lifestyle managements
To make him look silly so women won’t throw themselves at him? No need for that! Everytime I recall those concert photos I will automatically think no, not him.
But do u recall him in series like “cold blood warm heart”, “return of the cuckoo”, or “point of no return” (sai kwan dai siu)? I’m sure a lot of women wouldn’t mind throwing themselves at him.
I always thought leng leng was lucky to have chilam. He is quite a catch and didn’t mind revealing their relationship, even when she was more famous than him. I wonder if his career would’ve been more successful if he wasn’t so open about their relationship. He might’ve gotten more promotion b/c he certainly has the looks and talent.
I don’t think it is healthy in a marriage or relationship for one person to be too controlling or dominant over the other person. It is always best to have a balance when it comes to control or anything in a marriage.
I used to think that Anita and Chilam were a good and happy couple, but now that I think about it… Not really… It does seem like their marriage is more on the practical side. I think Anita is lucky to have Chilam as a husband but hopefully she doesn’t take too much advantage of him since there is only so much a person can take…
Totally agree with you. In whatever relationship there shouldn’t be any control especially on ones feelings. But, in reality I’ve seen many people especially the wives controls the husbands (it happens to a lot of my friends). But, againn as long as both parties don’t feel tired, then it shouldn’t post too much problem. Because if either party is not happy being controlled then he/she will outburst then the situation can go out of hand.
I see that a lot these days as well and I find that sad when so many women are controlling their men. I feel that everyone has a limit so the one that is controlling whether it be the man or the woman needs to know not to push anyone to their edge or else regardless of how nice or high anyone’s tolerance level is, it is bound to burst after that anger builds out for an extended period of time. I don’t think either party is happy to be controlled but sadly for the sake of the kids or to keep the peace, the one that is being controlled at times has to swallow it all in… However, I feel that there is only so much a person can take and once they blow up, that is when the problems occur.
Oops typo, I meant to say “build up”…
They seem like a good couple to me and I don’t find Chilam henpecked. He’s just an easy-going person. Anita has mentioned he’s those ‘mou so wai’ (無所謂) person. This is his advantage and also disadvantage. Disadvantage is he would be able to fight with people. Advantage is, people like him.
Honestly, if you listen to Chilam’s interview, you don’t feel that he’s been controlled or in a lot of pressure. He sound happy in his marriage.
Chilam could be very happy that he need not crack his brain to thing of what to wear most of the time because his wife already prepare for him.
Giving money seems unromantic. But, maybe this is how they like things to be? To keep things simple? They do a lot of other interesting stuff together, didn’t they Travel to Nepal with baby Morton etc.
sorry typo. I mean to say
Disadvantage is he would not be able to fight with people. Advantage is, people like him.
Of course he got looks and talent,his costumes in series or film always good because there is production team who prepare the costumes for him,but when he is attending other functions,he is always wear weird costumes(last time he wore a suit with skulls pictures printed on it,and then he wore some flowery pant in JSG Selection Round 2)
Here is the picture and video:
http://simg.sina.com.hk/cp/0/0065/1276/2/p.jpg
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n8S-1X3CaAI
i think he enjoys it. one wants to control, another wants to be controlled. perfect couple.
I am a great fan of this couple and its nice that their son is developing such a kind hearted and generous spirit. Anita doesn’t strike me as a very overly dominant woman. I think opposites attract and it seems that she is the less quieter of the two. Looks like Chi Lam enjoyes being told sometimes on what to do and what not to do without being henpecked. Still; if that is what makes their marriage tick then good luck to them. It would be disastrous if they were both the same type of person as nine out of ten couples would argue more. Hence they say that “opposites attract” which I agree.
It is great that their son is becoming such a kind hearted person. From what I know of Anita, she can be pretty dominant and controlling. However, maybe it isn’t as bad as some may think. Also, I think that if a couple doesn’t argue at all or things look too “perfect” then there are more problems. Of course too much arguing is not good either, especially if you can’t work things out. I think that if you are argue and are able to resolve your problems, that is one of the things that makes a marriage more long lasting and happy.
“However, maybe it isn’t as bad as some may think.”
I don’t think it’s bad at all. This couple seem to get a long well. When Anita said she likes to control her husband, people immediate have the picture that Anita is this awful controlling wife who limit her husband in everything and Chilam is the unhappy henpecked husband who feels no freedom. I don’t see it that way. I remember Anita once related a story about Chilam going to Thailand and she let him go out with friends to explore. She said Chilam said to her ‘it’s better than I explore now, if I explore when I’m old already, you will be even more scared’ and Anita said he’s right. If Chilam is a very henpecked husband, will he dare to say that to his wife? From this incident, you can also see that Anita is someone who is able to compromise. I see that they have a good open communication.
Thanks for the info Kidd. Now that I think of it, I guess Anita is not as controlling as some may think. I guess if she was really that bad then I don’t think Chilam would love her as much as he does. But then again, when people are in love, they don’t really think rationally anymore. I agree that communication and compromise is very important in a happy and lasting marriage.It is great that Chilam and Anita seem to have that…
cute couple. His wife always come across as dominant wife. Chilam i think he just an easy going guy. I think that’s why their marriage works. For dominant women and men to stay together under one roof would be very difficult. Normally it works better when one is more dominant than the other.
I think that’s why andy lau can stay together so long w/ carol zhu. Husband is da nan ren, and wife is submissive or robotic?. hehehe just kidding.
I’ve always thought that opposites attract – funnily enough, even with friends. My best friend happens to be pretty quiet whereas I am more of the conversationalist type. We are opposites in a lot of ways but still the best of friends. Maybe if Chilam had married someone just like him, the marriage may not have worked so with Anita its a nice balance.
I think Anita isn’t that possesive and dominant as the reporters quoted. I think Anita knows how to balance her role as a mother of Morton and wife in relationship with Chilam inorder to make the relationship works. Since we’re part of their family, it’s pretty hard to judge one with just news from the reporter. It takes someone to be from the family to know the truth of their relatiosnhip
*Since we’re not part of her family*