Eleven years ago, Elaine Ng Yi Lei had an affair with Jackie Chan and gave birth to their daughter,Cheuk Lam. After the scandal broke out, the married Jackie dismissed the affair by saying, “I committed a wrong-doing that men all over the world are guilty of!”
Afterwards, Elaine moved to Shanghai with her daughter, who grew up in a single parent family due to her father’s absence. Allegedly, Jackie gave a monthly stipend of $350,000 (Yuan) to Elaine. The amount would pay for living expenses and substitute for his fatherly responsibilities. In the last decade, Jackie never spoke about his illegitimate daughter and they led separate lives as if they were strangers.
Allegedly, Elaine hoped to send her daughter to the United States [to attend boarding school]. As a result, Elaine accepted several advertisement jobs to earn extra income recently. Due to the National Holiday on October 1st in China , Elaine took advantage of the holiday season to return to Hong Kong with her daughter. On a recent Causeway Bay shopping trip, reporters spotted eleven year-old Cheuk Lam, who resembled Elaine closely.
Due to Jackie Chan’s inappropriate remarks regarding the Hong Kong tourist deaths in the Philippines several in August, he aroused the wrath of many people. In recent months, Jackie has been living in his Beijing mansion. Although Jackie’s daughter, Cheuk Lam, is currently in Hong Kong , she lacked the opportunity to meet her father once again.
Jayne: Many men do cheat in relationships, whether they are married or not. Some extra-marital affairs are just more public than others. I found Jackie’s statement, “I committed a wrong-doing that men all over the world are guilty of,” to have a dismissive nature. He appears to justify his adultery by saying that it’s a common thing about men, dismissing its importance. From the sound of things, Jackie does not appear to be an involved father for Cheuk Lam. He even denied he was the father when Elaine’s pregnancy first surfaced and there may even have been DNA tests conducted.
With the upcoming November elections in New York State , it reminded me of former Governor, Eliot Spitzer’s prostitution scandal. Spitzer’s prostitution habit became the butt of many jokes, but I found his actions to be highly disturbing. Along with regular extra-marital affairs, apparently it’s common for men (from good backgrounds and education) to pay for sex. I know of a few friends’ friends who have paid for sex. They are well-educated men who hold professional jobs.
While traveling to Xian, China several years ago, the 4 star hotel we stayed at had a karaoke bar that offered escort services. I saw some of these girls in the elevator and they were probably 18 to early 20s. Prostitution seems to be a common and accepted practice in China . In fact, many men who vacation in China seem to love paying for these “high quality” prostitutes. “Sex vacation tours” are common in Asia and in one particularly disturbing news expose, tours that involve child prostitutes are in high demand.
Is it the convenience of paid sex that makes men gravitate towards prostitutes? They don’t have to work hard to impress a woman at the bar to have a one-night stand. Are the men so lazy? Or there is no possibility of rejection if sex is paid for? Is there a sense of power that the men have when they pay for sex and the woman will not say no? Some men’s preference for child prostitution is in a class of its own, which I find to be especially disturbing.
Men pay money to have sex with a prostitute. Keeping a mistress involves paying for her living expenses. Perhaps men have more feelings for their mistresses. But ethically, they are not very far apart from each other. If sexually-transmitted-diseases were not a concern, I believe that more men will sleep with prostitutes.