Feeling Constantly Unhappy, Joyce Cheng Didn’t Know She Needed Mental Health Help
Despite the hardships she has encountered over the years both professionally and personally, Joyce Cheng (鄭欣宜) remains optimistic. In a recent interview, she shares her experiences as an actress and singer.
Taking after her mom, the late entertainer Lydia Shum (沈殿霞), Joyce has always taught herself to remain happy even during the toughest times. One of the best methods she has learned is to simply let it out and never keep things bottled up inside.
Prone to panic attacks and having suffered from depression in the past, Joyce stressed the importance of self-love through her new song, “Savior Song” <救命歌>.
Joyce said, “When I first listened to this song, I can already imagine that there’s someone patting my head and telling me that I shouldn’t be scared. Everything is alright. To be honest, this doesn’t happen a lot for adults unless something bad happens and the person you’re dating is trying to comfort you. But I’m single, without a family, and I live alone so when I’m faced with problems, I’ve gotten used to sharing good news and never the bad ones. I never have a chance to let it all out. I’ve always wanted a piece of work dedicated to mental health and I hope that people with similar experiences can relate to it. I can’t control if this song will be popular or if it’ll win awards, but as long as it’s helping someone – then it’s a success.”
Prior to releasing this song, Joyce said she wasn’t aware that she needed mental health help. In fact, even back in 2016 when she released her popular song “Goddess” <女神>, and took part in hit movie, 29+1, Joyce felt constantly unhappy. In her memory, Joyce’s worst panic attack came right before she had to go onstage for a performance. The panic attack started in the car ride to the venue and Joyce cried up to the moment she went on stage.
After the show, Joyce received a text message from good friend Alfred Hui (許廷鏗), who complimented her performance that night. Realizing that she hid her feelings so well that even her good friend couldn’t tell when something was wrong, Joyce began thinking if it was her problem.
Slowly learning to share her problems and unhappy thoughts, Joyce said that confiding in a friend really helped her with her stress. Alfred often jokes with her after listening carefully to Joyce’s problems, and would always offer his full support.
Understanding that everyone will have bad days, Joyce revealed that her life motto is: Everything is all right. She expressed, “The more things are not going well, the more you should say this as a method to encourage yourself.”
Suffering from weight and body image issues over the years, Joyce no longer feels the pressure to fit into the norm. She exclaimed, “Even if you’re used to the negative comments, you still get affected. As a singer, I need to promote myself so I always pay attention to the feedback I get. However, I’m a bit strange because I read every single comment. If someone took the time to write you a comment, why not look at it? Sometimes, I would reply them too – if they don’t have the guts to reply back, then who cares?”
Building up her confidence over the years, Joyce doesn’t live her life based on other people’s unnecessary comments about her. In fact, she said the only thing she can do is live her life as it is and continue doing the things she loves.
Pointing out that even a superstar like Andy Lau (劉德華) can have haters, Joyce concludes how she deals with negativity. “I’m now 32-years-old and when people in the younger generation look at me, I can’t stay silent anymore. You have to teach them how to treat you properly and not just tolerate bullying. For example, I actively respond to haters but I will never yell at them – I will reason with them. Or if you feel like you’ll be happier if you write me a long hateful message – then I guess that’s a blessing for me.”
Source: Elle HK
This article is written by Su for JayneStars.com.