Alice Chan Said Ex-Husband Rarely Touched Her
Keeping her divorce a secret for five years, 45-year-old Alice Chan (陳煒) was in denial that her marriage with Taiwanese businessman James Yen (顏志行) had truly ended. Aside from the communication breaking down, Alice and James had a sexless marriage in which they were rarely intimate with each other. Her ex-husband’s behavior caused Alice to question her attractiveness and even self worth.
When they first met in 2006, Alice was 33 years old and she was three years older than James. After a whirlwind romance in which they were passionately in love, they got married in 2008. Retiring from acting, Alice moved to Beijing and Thailand due to James’ business needs.
Cooking and cleaning every day, Alice’s life was very mundane and she felt like she was a maid. In an earlier interview, Alice shared, “Other than work, he spent all his time at home, enjoyed my cooking, and wasn’t unfaithful to me. What more could I ask for…?”
But Alice did want more. Their conversations were filled with silence, and Alice started feeling like a piece of “human furniture”. Even when James was home, his mind was still on business matters and this took a toll on their sex lives. Alice revealed that James rarely touched her, “If our relationship was good and he frequently touched me, we wouldn’t have divorced!”
A lack of intimacy in a marriage can drive a couple apart, and this became a source of anxiety for Alice. This triggered Alice’s insecurities and damaged her confidence and sense of self-worth.
Their marriage was suffering and James finally suggested divorce in 2012. Left without a sense of direction, Alice flew to Taiwan to look for James one year after their divorce. Although both didn’t have romantic prospects, they knew that they couldn’t go back in time and remained friends instead.
Confiding in her close friends and going through therapy, Alice finally got back on her feet. But it took her five years to find the courage to announce her divorce publicly.
Filming for TVB also allowed Alice to focus on a goal and take her mind off her lackluster romantic life. Working tirelessly at TVB for the last six years, Alice is finally reaping rewards. Nominated for Best Actress for her performance in Deep in the Realm of Conscience <宮心計2深宮計> at the 2018 TVB Anniversary Awards, Alice admitted that she is highly interested in winning the award.
This article is written by Jayne for JayneStars.com.