Although married for 20 long years, the fire never burned out for Joe Ma (馬德鐘) and his wife Karen Cheung (張筱蘭). One an accomplished actor and another a university researcher, the couple still find time in their busy lives to go on romantic dinners and date nights. Love is always in the air for Joe and Karen!
“When two people are together, it is fate. But when it comes to communication, it requires a different knowledge,” said Karen. “What is the secret to our marriage? We keep our relationship fresh and unpredictable.”
Falling in Love
Like in many TVB dramas, it was not love at first sight for Joe and Karen. In fact, they hated each other.
“Joe and I were high school classmates. We’ve already known each other since Form 1. We really didn’t like each other at the time. He liked to bully his female classmates, and I always yelled at him because of it. When we were in Form 3, he decided to go to cadet school to be a cop, and we lost contact. Soon after our graduations, we met each other on the street, and we started dating after that. We married in 1993.”
Karen was always asked why she fell in love with Joe, who has held a tough, masculine image since youth. Karen smiled and explained that underneath his macho shell lies a heart of softness. Karen smiled, “Don’t be deceived by his big frame. He is actually very sensitive and romantic.”
“But I did ask him once. Why did he like me? He said it was because I was independent and not clingy. He used to be a G4 officer, so he had an inconsistent work schedule. When it comes to big holiday celebrations, I would not expect him to join. Then again, we were not very rich back then, and when we did go out, it is usually to the movies, to dinner, or to a stroll on the beach.”
Keeping Married Life Fresh
What is Karen’s most touching moment that she had with Joe? “Initially, I would have said my most [touching] moment was when I gave birth to our son, but my best moment was on the night of my 40th birthday. We had a romantic dinner, but when we got home, the lights were all turned off and the floor was decorated with heart-shaped candles. My first emotion was fear. Where did everyone in the house go, and why were candles on the floor? Then, my family and friends emerged from inside the house and surprised me. My son then presented me with a cake. The surprise was arranged by Joe. I couldn’t stop crying that night.”
Joe added, “When two people are together, it is important to be frank and candid. Sometimes, we should spend some time to please each other.”
“The key to a long-lasting marriage is to keeping things fresh,” shared Karen. “I do not believe that romantic love will turn to [companionship] love through the years. I don’t preach it. Knowing how to communicate and forgive is important, but the key ingredient is to maintain the youthful love you had for each other. Of course, fighting is unavoidable and disagreements will always be there, but we all must learn how to accommodate and love the flaws we each have. For Joe and I, married life is dating life. We keep our life fresh and new.”
On June 28, Joe and Karen will hold their “China Wedding Anniversary Banquet” at Sheung Wan’s Western Market. The couple decided to hold a second wedding to celebrate their love. The money collected at their charity banquet will all be donated to Alzheimer’s research.
Source: 3 Weekly #715 via kuangaitvb.com
This article is written by Addy for JayneStars.com.