Louisa So on Loving Boyfriend for 20 Years
Forty-eight-year-old Louis So (蘇玉華) has been dating her boyfriend and fellow stage actor, Poon Chan Leung (潘燦良), for twenty years. Despite earlier reports claiming that the couple intend to get married this year, Louisa clarified that she does not believe in such formalities.
She said, “If it were to just sign a piece of paper [marriage certificate], we can do it anytime. But what difference does it make to sign it? Will the world be a better place? Is it a big deal to anyone? For example, if so and so got married, what does it have anything to do with me?”
Despite their lack of interest in pursuing a legal title as husband and wife, the couple continues to maintain a trusting and loving relationship. In addition to Poon Chan Leung’s strengths, Louisa has long embraced his flaws as well. “I love everything about him, including his flaws like not being romantic, not knowing how to cook, and not ever surprising me. I will still acknowledge, respect, and accept everything about him.”
However, just like any other couple, Louisa and Poon Chan Leung regularly bicker over small matters. When two people with different backgrounds and perspectives come together, there will inevitably be conflicts. Regardless of whether it is small quarrels or monumental disagreements, Louisa shared that she would ask herself one simple question, “When it gets so bad that I can’t take it anymore, I would ask myself, ‘Do I still love him?’ This is very important. If I still love him, then I will continue to persist. To be honest, if we no longer love each other, then there isn’t much more to talk about. If we still love one another, then nothing else is important.”
Both reflective thinkers, Louisa and Poon Chan Leung enjoy thoughtful debates with one another. Louisa shared, “He is a very upstanding person. He is sincere and does not have any distractions. I like his style of deep reflection. Of course, there are times where he is overly detailed and talks endlessly.”
Poon Chan Leung laughed and also shared his admiration for Louisa, “I can learn a lot from her. There’s bound to be a difference in thought processes between two people. Her way of thinking can introduce a new perspective for me. I am a more complacent and simple person. In contrast, she is more defiant.”
This article is written by Huynh for JayneStars.com.