Carman Lee Regrets Not Becoming a Mother
A traditionalist at heart, the star has no regrets about quitting acting at the height of her fame, but is rueful about not having experienced motherhood.
Often called “Most Beautiful Little Dragon Lady” in reference to her classic role in The Condor Heroes <神雕侠侣> 1995 TV adaptation, Carman Lee (李若彤) recently guest-starred in a Chinese period drama The Untamed <陳情令>, surprising fans with her ageless beauty. Although only a guest star in the drama, the 52 year-old actress caught the attention of viewers and supportive fans.
Gave Up Thriving Career for Boyfriend but Broke Up 4 Years Later
Carman with her mom
The actress had once taken a 10-year-long hiatus from the entertainment industry in 2004. Prior to that in 1998, she started dating businessman Martin Kwok (郭應泉), whose business failed the following year. To help repay her lover’s debts, Carman took on many dramas in China to earn more money.
In order to accede to her then boyfriend who “did not like her to be an actress”, Carman chose to quit her entertainment career at the height of her fame and popularity. However, the two later broke up in 2008. Also facing the demise of her father, Carman sunk into depression.
While she used to tear up whenever she mentions her father, Carman revealed that she finally mustered up courage to visit his grave during the Qing Ming festival this year. She is also thankful for her mother’s loving care throughout the years, which helped her in her recovery.
Returns to the Small Screen
In 2013, Carman accepted a role in TVB drama Never Dance Alone <女人俱樂部> after being invited by Eric Tsang (曾志偉), marking her return to the entertainment industry. She films and works mostly in Mainland China in recent years.
Still single over 10 years after breaking up with her boyfriend, Carman’s opinion towards love has undergone a 180-degree change. She used to be very traditional and believed in listening to her husband after marriage, which was why she obeyed her boyfriend and prioritized his happiness above her own. Now, she has learned to think for herself and not give in too much to the other party, knowing that he should be encouraging rather than restrict her pursuits. She had once looked forward to marriage keenly, but gave up the idea after she hinted twice to her boyfriend, but to no avail.
She revealed that there are potential partners in her social circle now with whom she can choose to take things further, adding that she prefers ambitious men who are willing to share their advice when she encounters any problems.
With friends’ active match-making efforts, Carman has tried thrice going on dates while concealing her celebrity status. Although she used to mind this in the past, she feels open about it now and uses the opportunity to train herself not to be overly concerned about her identity. She has become friends with some of the prospects.
Although love once led to her losing out on career opportunities, Carman she does not regret her decisions, but only feels rueful about not having children. She did not make the leap to motherhood back then as she was stopped by fears of her children growing up in an incomplete family.
This article is written by JoyceK for JayneStars.com.