Although Myolie Wu (胡杏兒) is currently enjoying her third pregnancy and has built her own strong, happy family with her husband, Philip Lee (李乘德), the 41-year-old actress grew up in a single-parent household. When Myolie was 7 years old, her parents divorced. Her mother decided to leave, and her father took care of Myolie and her two sisters. Although as a mother now herself, Myolie questions her mother’s actions of leaving her daughters behind after the divorce. “To be honest, now that I am a mother, I cannot fathom why she did what she did at the time.”
Myolie’s mother was very young when she got married, which the actress believes made her feel resentful. “She gave birth to my older sister at 22 years old. She was 26 years old when she had me. I think at the time, we did not have relatives or babysitters to help, so it all fell on her to raise us. Perhaps that gave her a lot of pressure and tormented her. Now, I understand how tiring it is to raise children. Maybe she thought about how young she was at the time, and how she could not just give the rest of her life away to raise children.”
While her mother was the one to initiate the divorce, Myolie feels that her father may have played a part in the separation as well. “My father is not a loving kind of man. He didn’t know how to coax or sweet-talk to her. He wasn’t happy that my mother found someone else. For my mother, she wanted to escape from a rigid and strict life. That was her choice.”
In recent years, Myolie’s mother has been diagnosed with dementia. In some ways, Myolie thinks this may be a blessing in disguise. “She is a person with a hard life. Right now, she has dementia and isn’t able to recognize people. Actually, I think having this illness is a relief for her. Not remembering may be a good thing, because sometimes, having a good memory may bring on more pain and suffering.”
Despite her parents’ divorce, Myolie’s close relationship with her two elder sisters made her want to have three children herself. She knows a good marriage is not easy, and is even more appreciative and thankful for her soon-to-be family of five.
This article is written by Huynh for JayneStars.com.